Word Fact: Should You Say “Between You and I” or “Between You and Me”?

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Grammar is a combination of rules and conventions. What is the difference? Well, there are the rules, like a verb must agree with its subject. By that rule, “he say” is incorrect. Then there are conventions, which are uses of language that are common enough that even though they break the “rules” they become “correct” simply through repeated usage. Additionally, there are other conventions that vary from place to place, but that’s a much bigger discussion.

In the introduction to the 2003 edition of The King’s English, Matthew Parris reminds us that, “There is no authority. English is not a managed language. Nobody is in charge.” Over time, English speakers themselves become the authority. Some accepted conventions sound very natural, like saying “I’m good” instead of “I’m well.” Through their ubiquity, they’ve become an accepted part of the language.

Now what about “between you and I”? Technically, it should be “between you and me.” However, the phrase “between you and I” has become accepted as an idiom of its own. Even Shakespeare used it! Confusing “me” and “I” is one of the most common grammar problems. Using the word “I” can sound learned and elite; however this leads to it being overused when it’s actually incorrect.  This problem is called hypercorrect incorrectness. The “you and me” problem is confusing when there are two objects, as in the sentence “Thanks for inviting my husband and I to dinner.” If you are ever unsure, here’s a simple trick. Omit the first person and see how it sounds. If you said, “Thanks for inviting I to dinner,” it sounds wrong. Without two people, it is easier to use your ear to hear if “I” or “me” is grammatically correct.

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  1. Ezekiel -  April 22, 2016 - 6:10 pm

    Question: What’s the rule for ‘myself’?

    • CindyD -  August 29, 2016 - 12:38 pm

      “Myself” is almost always overused. From my beloved resource, “Woe is I” – a delightful book by Patricia T. O’Conner, “myself is used
      to emphasize “The doctor himself was sick”
      to refer to a subject (as in “I hate myself”) or call yourself a doctor.

      The title of her book, “Woe is I” is grammatically correct, but nobody says it that way. I have no interest in her or her book, but it’s been a fun resource.

    • Haggy -  September 6, 2016 - 9:46 am

      “Myself” is something that I can use myself when talking about myself. You can talk about yourself, but I can’t talk about yourself. I can talk about you. It matters whether you are speaking in the first, second, or third person. I can say “John went fishing with me” but not “John went fishing with myself” because he is the one doing it. He can go with himself but not with myself. John and myself can’t go camping, but John and I can go camping. He can’t go fishing with John and myself for the same reason he can’t go with myself. But he can go fishing with John and me. He can go fishing with me and John. But he can’t go fishing with John and I.

      There is also the pleonastic sense that’s used for emphasis. “I did it myself” means that I did it. Logically, you can’t do something myself. I can’t do something yourself. If I did something, of course I did it myself. But it’s still valid as an intensifier.

      • Kelly -  September 21, 2016 - 12:36 am

        This is amazing!

  2. Constantine A. Papadopoulos -  December 23, 2015 - 2:27 am

    If people can’t tell the difference between “Thanks for inviting my husband and I to dinner” and “Thanks for inviting my husband and me to dinner”, they should revert to Jamaican English and say: “Thanks for inviting I-and-I to dinner.”

    • paul -  January 22, 2016 - 11:08 am

      I literally laughed out loud.

    • JamaicanDawta -  June 27, 2016 - 5:13 pm

      @Constantine A. Papadopoulos, “I-and-I” is actually a Jamaican Patois phrase commonly used in the Rastafarian religion..

    • Sweetsop -  July 24, 2016 - 6:16 am

      Constantine OMG! I can’t stop laughing!! That is it hilarious!! It is so wrong on so many levels…still funny though. Yes I-Ya! :)

    • Rebecca -  August 26, 2016 - 5:19 pm


    • Rebecca -  August 26, 2016 - 5:28 pm

      Or Ja and I

    • Rebecca -  August 26, 2016 - 5:34 pm

      Or you could say Jah and I…

  3. Lachlan -  September 26, 2015 - 2:52 am

    So it’s John and me, not John and I? Because if you omit the first person, you say: “Do you want to go to the movies with I?” I was always taught (Australian English) that it’s John and I.


    • Ross -  October 8, 2015 - 11:25 am

      It all depends on how the sentence is phrased.
      “John and I will go to the movies later, but you’re welcome to join John and me when we go.”
      There are slight differences in how those sentences are phrased, so what I typically do is just imagine parentheses around the first subject and the word ‘and.’ These would be the kind of parentheses which indicate that you can remove it to suit your needs, as in, “We were expected to remember the color(s) of our extra shirt(s) that we brought for our gym class(es) every week.” So then we have the sentences:

      (John and) I will go to the movies later, but you’re welcome to join (John and) me.
      Can you help (John and) me open this jar? (John and) I tried to get a pickle out, but the lid won’t budge for (John and) me.

      Where it gets really confusing to me is when you initially replace the multiple people with a plural pronoun, and then try to explain it later.
      “We will go out to eat on Thursday. By ‘we’ I mean John and me; you are not invited.”
      I think this is correct grammar, but you can’t actually substitute the ‘we’ in the first sentence with the phrase “John and me” because you would have to use ‘I’ instead of ‘me’ which puts the mathematical definition of substitution at odds with the grammar of the second sentence. Infuriatingly, you can also write, “We will go out to eat on Thursday. By ‘we’ I mean ‘John and I’; you are not invited.” because you’re explicitly grouping “John and I” away from the rest of the latter sentence, indicating a mathematical strictness of the replacement which is to be done.

      If you still don’t feel comfortable around your more aggressive grammarian friends, just use pronouns and then wait to be asked who you mean. You can then respond with a list because you aren’t actually trying to make a sentence, you’re just defining a term (This would be acceptable in my opinion).
      “We’re going bowling.”
      “Who is going bowling?”
      “John, me, my cousin, my aunt, and you. Now please get in the car.”

      Lastly, if you’re writing a story, you can throw out all the rules as long as one of the characters says it:
      “To the movies? Uh, I guess John and I… am. But you can–if you want–to come too with me–us.” he babbled unintelligently. =D

      • Alaskana -  January 25, 2016 - 4:23 am

        Regarding the sentence “John, me, my cousin, my aunt, and you.” Is it not incomplete? Also, should not one list oneself last? Ergo the ‘sentence would end with ‘and me’.

      • Carylonly -  March 3, 2016 - 9:15 am

        This is my first visit to the blog. Ross, I have a question that is a cousin to your last example
        “JOHN AND I AM”.

        Last night I was listening to a t.v. spot that said
        “If you or a loved one is suffering from..”
        What is correct?
        If you ARE
        If a loved one IS
        If BOTH ARE
        either or are/is

        I am confused.
        Please help! Every time I either hear or read
        Something that doesn’t seem correct, I would always call Uncle Jim. He passed many years ago. Alas, I miss him!
        Thank you

        • Sandra Tsantilis -  March 23, 2016 - 11:03 pm

          I joined this blog because English grammar has always fascinated me!
          I taught ESL to children for 30 years.
          I worked in NYC where many immigrants live. I loved it!
          However, after reading some of the comments here, I’m not sure if I really want to participate.
          I would like to be able to teach as well as learn here. Please let me know if you think that this is a worthwhile endeavor.

          Sandy T

        • Sandra Tsantilis -  March 23, 2016 - 11:13 pm

          That’s easy!
          If you OR a loved one IS suffering. ..
          That’s correct because we are talking about one subject. Singular (One or the other).
          If you AND a loved one ARE suffering. ..
          That becomes plural.(Both of you)

          • Mitchell -  March 31, 2016 - 3:50 am


            I think the question was supposed to highlight the fact that if you remove the terms “or a loved one” from the original sentence, you get “If you is suffering…” which would be incorrect grammar.

            Much like the sentence “John and I will go to the movies”, you can remove “John and” from the sentence to get “I will go to the movies”. This trick does not seem to apply to Carylonly’s question.

            Can you eleborate?


          • Jerry -  September 4, 2016 - 7:17 pm

            The subject before or is the one that governs the verb so if you or a loved one are suffering is correct

            By the same rule you would say if a loved one or you is suffering that would be correct

          • Jeff -  December 9, 2016 - 9:51 pm


            Actually, when using “or” or “nor” it is the noun/pronoun closest to the verb that governs the verb. “If you or a loved one is…” is correct. If you switched it, you would say “If a loved one or you ARE…”

            Also, the same rule applies if you are using a plural subject and a singular subject joined by “or/nor.” Thus, you get “Neither the Johnson brothers nor Bob is…” and “Neither Bob nor the Johnson brothers are…”

            Yes, sometimes that can lead to some very awkward, yet grammatically correct, sentences. In such a case, you probably ought to reword the sentence to something more natural sounding.

      • Victoria -  March 23, 2016 - 4:30 am

        That was a really helpful explanation, thank you!

        • J Scott -  October 17, 2016 - 6:58 pm

          Sometimes I think, when you’re unsure of most anything in life, the better option is to ‘do what you know’. Using the example given, ‘Thanks for inviting my husband and (I-me), you could say instead; thanks for inviting ‘us’, or ‘Thanks for inviting me, and my husband.., even ‘Thanks so much for the invite, we all can’t wait to.. And sometimes, you could just use the ‘convention’ option and say- ‘Thanks, but we ain’t coming.’

    • Jeff -  February 8, 2016 - 7:11 am

      Invite John and me. Someone is inviting us. We are the objects of the sentence. The subject is doing the action.

    • Trish -  February 14, 2016 - 1:38 am

      Sorry, brought up in Australia….that’s for me, that’s for John and me…..I am going, John and I are going, but many, many people put ‘i’ instead of ‘me’ in the last example…..think it’s posh, badly taught or copy what their parents do/ did……I don’t know the reason.

      • Eve Stangor -  March 1, 2016 - 4:29 pm

        Thank you for letting me know I’m not going insane! Brought up in America, and that example of “that’s for John and “me/I” drives me up a wall! Back in our day, we were taught to remove the “other person” to make sure the sentence made sense. Why is that no longer taught? Thanks for sharing what you and I know to be correct English! I think that says that teachers are maybe no longer putting enough care into their teaching. I can say this, because I am a teacher. It is sad………

      • Charla Factor -  March 23, 2016 - 5:44 am

        Eve, Oh, if we could but learn that there are things so much more important than if we were grammatically correct. I had 2 sons pass on. You can’t know how much I wish I had spent more time saying, ” I love you, you are a fantastic person, You have blessed my life…” Instead of correcting their English. I’d love to hear their voice again. Believe me I wouldn’t care if their English was correct or not.

    • Kaylee -  April 28, 2016 - 8:57 pm

      I was always told that between you and me is a preposition and me is the object of the preposition. In between you and me you need to have and objective case pronoun. I is a nominative case pronoun and me is a objective case pronoun. You also need a objective case pronoun when the pronoun is the direct or indirect object in the sentence

      • Bart -  September 15, 2016 - 4:51 pm

        Thanks for that. Prepositions have objects, not subjects. I get so tired of “between John and he” type errors.

    • Claudette -  August 23, 2016 - 1:50 pm

      I was also taught that if you turn it around: “Thanks for inviting me and my husband,” it’s another way to determine correct usage.

    • Ragini -  August 26, 2016 - 3:39 am

      As per my knowledge if I am actor in the sentence it will be John and I like ‘John and I will go out for movie’. In other case its me like ‘You can join John and me for movie’. In case the dinner sentence it should be ‘Thanks for inviting my husband and me for dinner’ as somebody else invited us for dinner. If I am host it will be ‘my husband and I am inviting you for dinner’. Hope this helps.

    • Haggy -  September 6, 2016 - 9:56 am

      In simple terms, you use a subject pronoun for subjects and an object pronoun for objects. Adding or taking away somebody doesn’t turn the subject of a sentence into the object of a sentence or vice versa. It’s correct to say that he went to the movies, because “He” is the subject. “Him” didn’t go to the movies. John and him didn’t go to the movies because the subject of the sentence still says who went to the movies.

      You don’t even need to take somebody away, but merely need to change the pronoun. Do you want to go to the movies with us? “Us” is an object pronoun, used to represent John and me. It has to be “me” because I replaced an object pronoun that was plural with a proper noun and a singular object pronoun.

      It has nothing to do with whether there’s one subject or two, or one object or two. It matters whether something is a subject (I,you, he, she, we, they) or object (me, you, him, her, us, them) and since that won’t change when you remove one of the subjects or objects, the technique will work. Don’t replace an object with a subject or vice versa.

  4. Gary Hart -  August 27, 2015 - 4:25 am

    Reading your condescending comments saddens. Some of you claim to be teachers, saddening me even more. People like you who put down students of all ages are the greatest cause for uneducated people.

    People visit this blog to learn. Your responsibility is to encourage and inspire, not intimidate, denigrate and infuriate. People who do the latter are insecure. If you’re prone to putting people down, go see a good therapist and please do not return until you learn how to motivate continued learning.

    • Mercedes -  January 27, 2016 - 1:21 pm

      Bravo! We all learn, children & adults, in an atmosphere of safety. When we we have a fight/flight response, or feel paralyzed with fear, we are not even in the right “chemical,” state of consciousness to learn new things.
      When we feel safe, loved, nurtured or relaxed, it’s so much easier.
      I wish I could hear others speaking proper grammar so that I would at least know what it sounds like. It would make it easier for me to speak it or learn it if it was more common.
      Thanks for your post.

  5. Must of Us Only Speak English Here -  May 17, 2015 - 1:16 am

    Quat? :|

  6. Modern Youth -  March 27, 2015 - 10:38 pm

    Wowz U pplz R rlly Butmad o sum sily rulz lik srsly?

    • GooGoo -  April 3, 2015 - 2:37 pm

      Modern Youth! a) MIND YOUR MANNERS!!!!!!!!!!! b) USE REAL WORDS!!!!!!!!!!!

      • You -  April 17, 2015 - 7:58 am

        Modern Youths are too stupid and ignorant to know anything about actual English. I remember once, a few years back, when I was subbing for some little crap school, I looked at some of the essays the kids turned in, and it was something out of a nightmare! They said your where you’re should have been used, didn’t put commas frequently enough, and 2 of them didn’t put a SINGLE period in the essay. So you shouldn’t be expecting much for the future- just be glad if we can get through it without blowing up the world.

        • "You" Suck -  May 17, 2015 - 1:02 am

          Please stop being a teacher of any sort. You are far too jaded to be handling children. Seriously, give the kids a break. No one wants to learn from such a sanctimonious turd like your self.
          And Modern Youth was hilarious. He employed this old comedy technique the experts call irony. Those correcting others are often the most dense. Awfully ironic of me to say, I know, but I love to consider myself better than everyone else, teehee; same as “You” obviously, just without the same level condescending. :D

          • "You" Suck -  May 17, 2015 - 1:07 am

            Sorry, didn’t finish that.

            the same level of condescending BS. ;D

          • Mamasama -  August 29, 2015 - 8:20 pm

            Yet the “sanctimonious” teachers’ jobs are the ones that get cut when the student performance rates on standardized tests drop. I don’t think text spelling will pass on whichever standardized test is currently administered in Modern Youth’s town. I’m not even sure Modern Youth’s irony would be seen or appreciated by those who grade the tests because they’re too busy looking for the common core standards, not creativity. Give a traditional teacher a break.

          • Trish -  February 13, 2016 - 5:45 pm

            A lot of it has occurred since the invention of SMS, shortening words, including using numbers and no punctuation. This mainly effects the young, but not only….the correct usage of the words ‘me’ and ‘I’ is my pet peeve. Thought it was easy…’that’s for me…..that’s for John and me’, ‘I am going, John and I are going’……but oh no, people of all ages cannot use ‘me’ correctly and more often than not use ‘I’…..’that is for I’, I don’t know if they think it sounds posh, or they have never been taught how to use the words correctly. As previously mentioned, someone said they were taught ‘Australian English’….I do know people of all ages who can use the words correctly…so is it the home environment…a particular teacher or something that has been just let go or overlooked in the education dept. I had a part time employee, while she was studying….when she finished she told me she was going to go to Africa to teach English, my response..’but you can’t even spell’ (not even phonetically correct, her response..’doesn’t matter.

        • Haggy -  September 6, 2016 - 10:14 am

          You can teach them properly, or you can be rude about it and create resentment. I can point out the rules I learned, such as when to use quotes, when to spell out numbers, when to capitalize, and when to use a hyphen or use a dash instead. I can then bemoan the sad state of the educational system where we have sanctimonious teachers who lack an understanding of the fundamentals.

          As a parent, I always found it difficult not to comment when I saw how poorly teachers write. In your case, I’ll make an exception. For homework, please read what you wrote and point out at least five mistakes.

  7. James B. DiGriz -  March 12, 2015 - 6:34 pm

    The only two things that beat “between you and I” is someone writing “should of” instead of “should have” or “your” instead of “you’re”.

    • The Troll under the Bridge -  April 17, 2015 - 7:54 am

      Between you and I, I think that your being too much of grammar nazi. You should of not posted you’re comment.

      • Pikachu Plays the Piano -  May 7, 2015 - 10:04 am

        You live up to your name. LOL (y)

  8. James B. DiGriz -  March 12, 2015 - 6:13 pm

    “Between you and I” is NOT an idiom! It’s how uneducated people talk. Period. The same as someone saying “I ain’t no fool” or some similar ridiculous parody to English.

    How can one even confuse “you” and “I” in this case and have NO knowledge of the very fundamentals of English language, where possessive pronouns and the core definition of object and subject belong?! It’s beyond my understanding.

    “Between you and I” may belong in Ebonics, but not in English.

    • You -  April 17, 2015 - 8:03 am

      I don’t think most rednecks or uneducated urban dwellers (I noticed the racism in your comment, just so you know) are too worried about making themselves sound smart like most people, so they would, funny enough, probably say ‘between you and me’. For the most part, it’s people like YOU who say ‘between you and I’.
      If you’re wondering what I mean by people like you, I mean stuck-up idiots who think they’re better than everyone else. AKA the average American. Congratulations! You’re normal!

      • "You" Suck -  May 17, 2015 - 1:03 am

        ^ The definition of irony.

      • Mamasama -  August 29, 2015 - 8:30 pm

        So, wanting to sound educated automatically makes one a “stuck-up idiot”? Now there’s a nice thing to say! Maybe James is simply tired of the variety of forms of incorrect English that try to pass themselves off as correct. Check the comment I made about the teacher. If someone doesn’t care enough to point out the errors that are made in English, then who loses? I can pass the tests our children are given to show their knowledge. I’d bet that James can, too. Can you? You tell him not to be judgemental, yet you judge him. Oh, and by the way, I don’t agree with the way James expressed himself, but I don’t feel the need to call him names for it.

    • Jo-Ann Patton -  July 4, 2016 - 10:07 am

      The I/me thing drives me crazy! (I probably don’t have enough other stuff to worry about). It bothers me the most that nearly every public person (I.e. news commentator, talk show host, politician) incorrectly uses “I” when it should be “me”. These are people one would expect to have the most knowledge of correct grammar. Sad – especially for so many English learners who rely on TV to help them learn the language.

  9. favour -  February 19, 2015 - 7:14 pm

    please can anyone tell me which is correct among these two. Dave and i or Dave and me

    • Rose -  February 25, 2015 - 1:03 pm

      First of all, you should ask, “which is correct BETWEEN these two?” not among. But to answer your question, it depends; sometimes it will be Dave and I and sometimes Dave and me. Do as the article states and omit the Dave in your sentence to hear which sounds correct. That’s the easiest answer, as opposed to having to figure out the subject or object of the sentence.

    • James B. DiGriz -  March 12, 2015 - 6:16 pm

      She gave it to Dave and me.

      Dave and I gave it to her.

      No wonder the native speakers of English have hard times leaning foreign languages – they don’t even get the over-simplified grammar of English.

      • You -  April 17, 2015 - 8:07 am

        I don’t think you understand the hardships of learning English- it’s certainly not ‘oversimplified grammar’. There’s a reason why most people with English as their first language don’t know any other languages- English is so much different from other languages that we get confused as to why they’re not the same.
        Besides, nobody asked your opinion. Go cry yourself to sleep and stop trying to bring everyone down to your level.

        • "You" Suck -  May 17, 2015 - 1:12 am

          “Go cry yourself to sleep”
          Sure, the guy was rude, and generalized English speakers as vocationally incompetent, but that was also a crappy thing to say. You of all people don’t need to be trying to curb people’s unsavory or rude behaviors. You are chock-full of those nasty little habits.

      • itaguyodangbuhay -  September 17, 2015 - 9:00 am

        Study the difference from the following examples:

        You and I are leaving for U.K.
        The company is sending you and me to U.K.
        She and I are working on this project.
        The project was assigned to her and me.

        May the examples given above help in better understanding the usage of ____ and I and _____ and me.

        • Trish -  February 13, 2016 - 5:55 pm

          I thought that was the simple answer too. Until I found they would use ‘me’ instead of ‘I’ in all comments..Badly taught, does it sound posher ? or learnt from the home environment,who knows…….????

    • amanda -  May 6, 2015 - 3:17 am

      i Like Dave AND His Brother

      • Just want to say -  June 16, 2015 - 11:34 pm

        I won’t mind joining Dave and his brother.

    • I love to learn -  February 2, 2016 - 9:46 pm

      Dave and I are going to the movies. Bill went to the movies with Dave and me

  10. Betty B -  November 28, 2014 - 6:08 pm

    I will say it: It is really sad that the use of the words ‘I’ and ‘me’ have to be defined.

    • Valarie -  February 8, 2015 - 7:56 pm

      I’m glad that if I use the same incorrect words they eventually become correct! That’s sweet for me for the reals yo!!!

    • "You" Suck -  May 17, 2015 - 1:05 am

      I certainly wouldn’t say it’s sad. English is a dynamic language that undergoes constant metamorphosis to adapt to the common people. The language isn’t even the same as it was 20 years ago.

      • Trish -  February 14, 2016 - 1:21 am


  11. Hershal Squires -  November 22, 2014 - 2:00 pm

    I KNEW it! Marley and Me didn’t sound quite right.

    • heather -  December 10, 2014 - 11:22 am

      hi can anyone tell me if “can you tell me what he will be doing?” is correct or should one say : ” can you tell me what he will do?”

      thank you

      • kairavini -  December 18, 2014 - 9:35 am

        Both are correct, they’re just different tenses and might depend on context. The first is future continuous, and it would imply that he will still be doing something whereas the second implies that he will be finished at a time when something else happens, i.e. you call him or visit him or the weekend is over or whatever. Say you ask what he will be doing/do on Saturday, the first tense might hint that you plan to join or interrupt that action by contacting him on Saturday for example. The second one hints more of a probing question, you don’t know if you could interrupt, or can’t or are just curious.
        If you just want to know, either tense is okay.

    • Mamasama -  August 29, 2015 - 8:38 pm

      It COULD be right: The picture showed Marley and me.
      Or it COULD be wrong: Marley and me went to the park.
      With only a noun, a conjunction, and a pronoun it’s too difficult to pass judgement.

  12. Sarah -  November 10, 2014 - 3:03 pm

    Thank you for this article! I always wondered which way was correct. One of my teachers also told me this, but I guess it slipped out of my head.

    • Sarah -  November 10, 2014 - 3:32 pm

      Thank you for this article! I have always wondered which way was correct. One of my teachers also told me this, but I guess it slipped out of my head.

    • James B. DiGriz -  March 12, 2015 - 6:19 pm

      Are you serious?! How can someone even wonder which one is correct?! It belongs to the very basics of English language.

      • Mamasama -  August 29, 2015 - 8:39 pm

        Be kind, James, or “You” will make another mean remark to you.

  13. Adam -  October 4, 2014 - 12:20 pm

    Actually, it was this passage in the article that made my skin crawl:

    “In the introduction to the 2003 edition of The King’s English, Matthew Parris reminds us that, “There is no authority. English is not a managed language. Nobody is in charge.” ”

    To hear something like that from an uneducated student is one thing, but for someone who is supposed to be an authority on our language to say it is inexcusable! While on one hand, I cannot dispute that that is what English has become, it should not be so. There ARE rules; they’re just not being enforced – in many cases, not even taught. When nobody is in charge, the result is chaos, and that is certainly what has happened to the English language in recent history, especially in the United States. It’s high time we start following the rules again, and return our language to some semblance of order.

    • Steve Mitchell -  October 7, 2014 - 5:31 pm

      In Canada, we say, ” the Queen’s English “.

      Sadly, we often contemplate the ” dumbing down of standard North American English ” vocabulary, grammar and style, in contemporary journalism, as evidenced in USA Today articles online.

      Recently, I encountered an American university graduate, teaching Written English at a South Korean university, who confided to me that she never wrote a single word on her university exams back home.

      All were Multiple Choice exams, to save professors’ valuable time in marking papers.

      As Americans say, ” Go figure ! “

    • Alin -  October 14, 2014 - 10:21 pm

      While I share your pedantic need to keep things orderly, I cope with this by simply reminding myself that languages evolve. The English language is no exception. It inevitably changes with time in commiseration with the people speaking it. So what is the correct way of speaking is all relative. If for example William Shakespeare read these comments he would likely be appalled by how simplistic English grammar has become.

      • loishapi -  June 17, 2015 - 11:20 am

        If Shakespeare could read these comments I doubt he would waste time “being appalled”, he would create, a new play perhaps, a comedy of errors.

    • Julius -  November 18, 2014 - 3:55 pm

      Language is a mean of communication, and once your message is passed through it does not matter the way it sounded,,, one should not care for the color of the kitchen but to its level of hygiene…

    • Mark the Undertaker -  November 22, 2014 - 2:24 pm

      Well…the only reason we have rules is so we can understand each other, right? So I guess it doesn’t really matter as long as we pretty much understand what each other is saying. Say someone asks you, “What is time?” Instead of “What is the time?” Most likely, they already know what time IS. So you’d just tell them what time it is! Unless they are homeless people, have never been to school or are new to America, they don’t need you to tell them how to speak English.

    • Mk reger -  November 30, 2014 - 12:31 am

      Hear, hear!

    • kairavini -  December 18, 2014 - 9:55 am

      You should look into linguistics. Languages evolve naturally and the purpose of rules is simply to reach a common understanding with the rest of the people who share the same language. Nobody made up grammar rules, at the time they derived from analysis made from observations of common usage. That’s what he’s talking about. I believe your comment is more about people sounding dumb when they don’t know a lot of grammar, though. But if more people speak like that, that is what English will become. Btw, a language should ideally not be complex.

    • Constance -  December 19, 2014 - 11:36 am

      Dearest Adam,

      The notion of anything about the article above causing your skin to crawl, deeply concerns me. There are children being raped and brutally beaten every 16 seconds, millions of people starving, homeless across the world, and wars with countless casualties every year. My heart shatters at the thought of how much strife you must feel when reading articles, pertaining to any of those world-wide issues. Hoping you get some rest buddy.


    • Julie K. -  February 8, 2015 - 6:34 pm

      I COULD NOT AGREE WITH YOU MORE! The simple fact that lazy and uneducated people can dictate what is, and is not correct, makes me sick! The rules were put in place for a reason!

    • RH -  February 8, 2015 - 7:27 pm

      I agree with this. People say, ‘Accept the evolution of language!’, but what is happening nowadays is de-evolution. We should not just accept incorrect use of language because it is wide-spread. Even in my youth what we were taught in school was miserable, and it is far worse now. Language has structure and rules, it is not just a mess of words. There is a primary purpose of language, which is: communication. Any additions or changes to the language that oppose the effectiveness of this are counter-productive.

    • Mamasama -  August 29, 2015 - 8:49 pm

      I could be wrong, but I believe Mr. Parris’ comment was intended to mean there is no formal organization in charge of the development and management of the English language. That’s true. There is no “Department of the English Language” sort of office in the US government. Yes, there are rules, but the rules change as they will for any active, live language. Only a dead language cannot be affected by time, culture, and the people who speak it. No, I’m not saying that every change that happens should be accepted with a smile and happy heart, but all changes cannot be prevented. English is a living language for better or worse.

    • Haggy -  September 6, 2016 - 11:08 am

      English came first. People spoke it. Dictionaries came later. They came about to document words as they were being used, not to create them. Grammar books came about later. They came about to document how language was being used. Such books all came about to document what was, not to dictate what will be.

      If you want to speak French, you might be happy to know that France is in charge of French. The government gets to decide what is and what isn’t proper French. But English has no governing body. It has no governing nation. If I want to write a book describing language as it is used today, I can claim that “who” is the objective case of “who” except after a preposition, when “whom” should be used. You might be able to point to grammar books to refute me, but I could point to English language speakers, including educated ones, to refute you.

      If pointing to a grammar book is what you have in mind to prove anything, then you lose your argument if my book differs from what you expect.

      Instead of pretending that somebody is in charge, you need to recognize that there are rules you can follow if you want to speak or write in a manner similar to educated people. But sometimes, following rules to their extreme will give you nonsense.

      I can say “Everybody came to class today and he ate his lunch at his desk.” Most people would find that sentence confusing. They will have no idea who is eating lunch. I could point out that “everybody” is singular. If the subject starts out singular, it can’t become plural in the middle of a sentence. I would never say “everybody are here” but would say “everybody is here.” So naturally it would be wrong to say “Everybody came to class today and they ate their lunch at their desks.” But that sentence makes perfect sense to most readers while the first quoted sentence in this paragraph makes little sense when you recognize that everybody is eating their lunch, not his lunch. Your teachers were wrong when they told you that “everybody” is singular. Sometimes it is. Sometimes it isn’t. And sometimes it changes right in front of your eyes.

      Rules don’t always work. Books might give general rules, but sometimes that means you end up with nonsense.

  14. Eugene -  October 4, 2014 - 9:28 am

    As far as using “good” and “well” goes, when someone says they’re good and asks me how I am, I always say “I’m well”, which invariably makes him, or her, smile. Now, if you’re talking to a woman and she says “I’m good” after you say you’re well, it puts an entirely different spin on things, doesn’t it? Raises all kinds of possibilities.

    • Laura -  October 22, 2014 - 5:21 pm

      You are TOO funny! (Yes, I know that is not proper grammar. :-) ) I appreciate your discreetly perverted sense of humor. The fact that others have not replied with a statement of their appreciation for your play on words leads me to believe that you and I may be the only two on this thread with their minds in the gutter! Rock on Eugene!

      • Mk reger -  November 30, 2014 - 2:02 am

        And what might it require to raise your dear
        Heads just a bit? Not at all, I think your humor to be quite in keeping with explaining the benefits of having language structure taught by those who are qualified to do so. No offense greatly intended.
        So, if there be no bar set, we are left without
        Knowledge and most certainly without understanding.
        That being the case, is it any wonder that so much blood spread about the world has stained our own hands?
        How easily we forget that without knowledge and understanding, wisdom cannot be obtained.
        Now would you kindly tell me, do we have need of wisdom in these days of horrific suffering?

        Do I make my point for holding up a semblance of speaking correctly.
        I say we could simply and without condemnation, teach by using what we know to be correct.
        Forgive me for saying so, but I think it a great pity for people to need to come to a website with such questions, only to be told it really does not matter.
        Let’s all live by the most mediocre of standards lest one offend another with an unspoken challenge to better him/herself.

        I say, we need to understand that we each teach what we live? Isn’t it nice that it is so simple for even the simple? I have reason to say so.
        Is this the guide we want to leave for the next generation?
        We stupidly ask ”why do they kill and maim and destroy, rather than make the effort, on our own part towards; “wisdom”. I for one say, Hell yes it matters , and if you tell anyone that i used a four letter word, I’ll deny it.
        Sorry. No time to edit. (;

    • Dave -  February 9, 2015 - 12:56 pm

      What I like to say when someone asks me how I am, I sometimes will say, “Are you asking about my health or my morales?” Then I say, for my health, I’m well, for my morales, I’m good.

      • Jacob Lewis -  February 26, 2015 - 7:47 am

        I think the word you’re looking for is emotional health, as morals are a set of ideas about what is humanly right and wrong.

        • Mya -  June 20, 2016 - 6:16 am

          Well point. Good stated.

      • James B. DiGriz -  March 12, 2015 - 6:21 pm

        Good point! :)

      • James B. DiGriz -  March 12, 2015 - 6:22 pm

        I’m good too. :)

  15. Susan -  September 27, 2014 - 9:28 am

    “All of THE sudden” is a phrase that gives me pause. I was raised with “All of A sudden” and it confused me the first time I heard “the” used in place of “a” after moving to the PNW. Are they interchangeable? Is it perhaps just regional?
    I try to use “suddenly” in place of either variation since I’m not sure if I’m saying the phrase correctly. Any ideas?

    • Alexis -  October 4, 2014 - 12:53 am

      No, you’re correct. It is “all of a sudden”.

    • Adam -  October 4, 2014 - 12:06 pm

      I suppose grammatically, technically, either is correct. “A sudden” is akin to “an instant”, so “all of a sudden” refers to a single moment, i.e., “in an instant” or “suddenly”. “A” is an article that suggests indeterminacy, whereas “the” is definite. Ergo, “All of a sudden” speaks more of a random moment, and “all of the sudden” refers to a specific moment. Looking back at the situation (whatever it may have been that happened “all of a sudden”), you might be able to say that it happened at a specific moment in time, or you might not, but at the time it happened, it would definitely have seemed to be totally random. So I would say that “all of a sudden” is the more correct choice.

      • Tt -  October 8, 2014 - 9:22 pm

        That was an excellent answer and I agree wholeheartedly. I wonder if children are still taught how to diagram sentences in English class in grade school, I really enjoyed grammar class when I was a kid.

        • Lyndon -  March 2, 2015 - 7:38 am

          My grandaughters are home schooling and they are diagraming. Mr Orielly, my pastor, a gentleman on television all three using you and I incorrectly. I guess rules do not matter anymore. Bill by being an ex-teacher should know.

    • Steve Mitchell -  October 7, 2014 - 6:05 pm

      Yes, it must be a regionalism, if you have encountered in several times by different speakers and/or writers.

      My wife and I, retired English teachers, have travelled/holidayed extensively all across Canada, as well as most of the USA, without ever hearing or reading the ” THE ” version.

    • Dave -  February 9, 2015 - 12:58 pm

      And that reminds, is it supposedly or supposably?

  16. old x teacher -  September 26, 2014 - 6:41 am

    No one has mentioned that we actually have a spoken language which is separate from our written language. I used to encourage my students to read a variety of sources to acquire a sense of how language is constructed. Such research resolves the issue of “Ostrich Duster” — a duster made of ostrich feathers, not a tool to remove dust from an ostrich. (That advise may not be useful anymore, since there has become a blurring between spoken and written language.) Society speaks “Between you and I…”, but writes “Between you and me…” when time is spent assessing the impact of the words. Over the years I have witnessed the imposition of the spoken language into our writing. Most recently, a government office where I live, sent out an addition to its regular notice writing “We are here to try and answer any questions you may have.” Listen to any reporter and you will hear the same phraseology. I learned MANY years ago that “and” connected two verbs, e.g. I will run and hide. So like those that resolved the you and I vs you and me issue, one can turn the statement into two sentences and see if they make sense. “We are here to try any questions…”; “We are here to answer any questions…” Obviously, the second sentence makes sense, but does the first? The immediate resolution is to substitute “to” for “and.” “We are here to try TO answer any questions….” But even that version is too wordy. (Not to mention that I’d have little confidence in public officials who would only TRY to answer questions, implying that they may not know the answers!) Wouldn’t the best (what is best?) version be – “We are here to answer any questions you may have.”? At least it implies that the officials have the competence to answer any question. (BTW – even my sentence “..turn the statement into two sentences AND see if they make sense” may make some readers be critical. However, making two sentences of my statement shows that both work – “turn the statement into two sentences”; “see if they (the two sentences) make sense.” Others might realize that the preposition “to” could be substituted for “and” and the sentence still makes sense – …turn the statement into two sentences TO see if they make sense. Still others might suggest the word “determine” instead of “see.”) Bottom line: one has to analyze language to insure clarity of thought; analysis requires some set of accepted “rules”. Acceptance of common usage just fogs up what we want others to understand.

    • Dr. P. -  September 28, 2014 - 6:20 am

      While we are on the subject, here is another phrase that I hear repeatedly that also makes me want to put my fingers in my ears: “There IS lots of (insert plural noun)…” Even on television! Where did these people learn their English?

      • M Chandran -  October 2, 2014 - 9:34 pm

        Sir, the word ‘All’ is plural noun. Isn’t it? So to be Grammatically correct You should say ‘All are well’. But do we say like that? We often say ‘All is well’. It is now universally accepted.

        • OED -  January 7, 2015 - 7:48 pm

          All is a a two-faced pronoun. If it refers back to “all of it,” use the singular, but if it refers back to “all of them,” then use the plural form of the verb.

          A similar case comes with a collective noun. In standard American English collective nouns go with a singular verb form:


          British usage, however, favors the use of the plural form of the verb.

      • alex -  October 4, 2014 - 5:06 am

        Yes, I agree, there sure are lots of stuff on tv nowadays :P

      • lita'anne -  October 4, 2014 - 6:27 pm

        i actually hear that a lot too!!

      • Haggy -  September 6, 2016 - 11:14 am

        Instead, a person can say “there is a lot of people here” or “there’s a lot of people here. It’s one lot, so it would be wrong to say “there are a lot of people here.” But many people who don’t like “there is lots…” tend to gloss over “there are a lot….”

    • Charlotte Stevens -  October 4, 2014 - 6:25 pm

      That “advice” not “advise”.

    • Animal! -  April 3, 2015 - 2:41 pm

      ?????????? No idea what u r saying!

      • Animal! -  April 3, 2015 - 2:45 pm

        I mean old x teacher!

    • Animal! -  April 3, 2015 - 2:44 pm

      ? NO idea what u r saying

    • Mamasama -  August 29, 2015 - 9:12 pm

      Your first sentence reminded me of some of the observations made in a linguistics class I attended years ago. Spoken English is much less constrained by the “rules” than written English. Were it not, then my friends in the South wouldn’t be “fixin’” to do things, and some in the upper Midwest wouldn’t end statements with “eh?” as if I needed to confirm hearing them. In the effort to communicate the meaning of a message in what may be a short time period, spoken language is bent, chopped, and torqued in ways that would make the world’s finest writers cringe. If the point gets through, then the mangling was worth the sacrifice of the rules, eh? However, if time is not of the essence, then the effort should be made to respect the listener’s ears (see comment by Dr. P.) by following the rules more closely.

  17. Artemius -  September 24, 2014 - 6:35 pm

    To clarify this matter consider these correct sentences:

    “Between you and me, I am the better shooter. Between you and her, she is the leader. Between his home and her home, his was bigger. Between him and the closet stood a lamp. Between you and it, you have more life.”

    • Jim -  October 4, 2014 - 9:21 pm

      On all my exams, all the way through the bar exam, when in doubt about personal pronouns, I always relied on the example given by my maternal grandmother: “Her ain’t calling we, us don’t belong to she.” Just see how it fits the phrase in question and apply the opposite of her example.

      • James B. DiGriz -  March 12, 2015 - 6:25 pm

        Why would you memorize the wrong example to convert it to the right one later? Why not memorize the right one in the beginning?!

    • Jacob Lewis -  February 26, 2015 - 8:02 am

      My gaming-oriented brain tripped a bit over the last sentence. If you apply it to a gaming-related situation it has a different meaning. The word “life” in gaming has another definition “Life” is colloquially used to refer to the state of well being of an entity. If it has “low life,” then it is near death. This purely comes from the fact that health in games is usually measured, which would be impossible in real life.

      The term “it” has more meanings in games too, as NPCs (Non-Player Character) or AI opponents are referred to as “it” sometimes because they aren’t real beings.

      So, the statement “Between you and it, you have more life,” means that you are more healthy than the other entity. Keep in mind that I do understand that the original meaning is that you have more sentience as a being.

  18. Jo S. -  September 24, 2014 - 10:22 am

    I think the best part of this article is that it is an article about grammar and they do not proof-read their own article ABOUT GRAMMAR.

    “Through their ubiquity, they’ve become an accept part of the language.”

    HELLO!!! Accepted, yes? Stuff like this drives me nuts!!!

    • Mch -  September 25, 2014 - 10:25 am

      I saw that too and couldn’t believe it. I read it twice to be sure.

    • Lyndell -  September 25, 2014 - 10:25 am

      I spotted that as well, Jo S. Yes, it should have been accepted.

      One of my cringe phrases is “these ones here.” We know that if it is these it is more than one as these is plural and one is singular and adding an s does not make it correct. . We can also tell where it is because it is being pointed out verbally as being close, not far as in those.

      • evil rofl -  October 4, 2014 - 4:29 am

        I’m not an English expert, but I’m sure that “These ones here” is a legitimate phrase.

        “ones” is indicating which objects with relevant states is talked about in a group of objects.

        “Which type of laptops are best for transporting?”
        -> “These ones here.”

        There is a group of laptops, but the speaker is indicating a group within the group.

        Hope this makes sense. I’m not a native English speaker.

    • Cody -  October 4, 2014 - 10:44 am

      Don’t write very much do you? That or you don’t admit that you aren’t perfect. This is an easy one: it was either 1) a typographical error; 2) starting a sentence (or multiple sentences) one way and then deciding it isn’t the best way (and then changing it but forgetting to adjust certain parts[1]); 3) making a simple mistake; 4) two or more of the above three.

      I have done this countless times. It is an easy mistake and the fact is anyone who does write enough (and realises they are not perfect) will admit to this very truth: you will notice your own mistakes like the one you cite but usually after the fact (and even if you look at the error before it is published that doesn’t mean you will notice it as an error). I have a knack for finding typos and I do it without any effort (it naturally occurs). I see it in books (yes that means published books) and I see it on signs and pretty much everywhere. But here’s the thing: no one is perfect and I have made this mistake many times (and look back and think where the … was I when I wrote this? Or even what the hell was I thinking or even trying to get across?). So either you don’t write very often or you somehow deem yourself perfect (or you’re in denial which is to say you don’t admit to your mistakes). That is a lot worse than making a simple mistake. Lastly, your repeated exclamation points borders on drama and if nothing else redundant (and unnecessary). So there you have it: you aren’t perfect either.

      [1]They have the old thought in their mind and therefore believe there is nothing to fix. It is a small mistake.

      • Jacob Lewis -  February 26, 2015 - 9:40 am

        You’re the first person who commented on the grammar of this article without sounding like a jerk. Kudos to you.

        • Animal! -  April 3, 2015 - 2:47 pm

          What does “kudos” mean?

      • Ashley -  March 1, 2015 - 9:09 am

        There is a shortage of copyeditors–you know, those lovely people who fix all of the grammar and punctuation mistakes? (Note: Copyeditors do more than check for punctuation and grammar issues, but for the sake of this reply, that description will do.) It is almost impossible to have a perfect command of English grammar rules, along with punctuation specifics, and usage. It’s difficult to catch every error in a text as a writer, especially when the time allotted for editing continues to decrease. In your response alone, I see countless punctuation errors. That is common. If you were writing a paper, I’m sure that you would have edited your text profusely in order to catch all of those slippery punctuation marks.

        Then there is the added issue of different definitions and usage for terms. Has any of you compared two dictionaries? In some cases, the treatment of a word is slightly different from one dictionary to another. This is also the case with style guides, which determine how you treat, for example, something like FBI. Should it be FBI? F.B.I.? Or something different?

        The most difficult aspect of English is how it varies. For copyediting, I use Chicago Manual of Style and (for my current project, at least) The Mirriam-Webster Dictionary. Even within CMS, though, the biggest concern is consistency within a text.

        Grammar is an expansive subject, and a complicated one, too.

        And since I’m not re-reading my post, I’m sure that there will be issues with it.

        P.S. Copyeditor can also be presented as Copy editor. Neither is wrong, unless your specific style guide prefers one form over another.

      • amanda -  May 6, 2015 - 3:49 am

        dear CODY


        NOT A CURSE

    • mixil -  October 4, 2014 - 12:34 pm

      Not to mention this beauty: “That ADVISE may not be useful anymore”. I learnt that ADVISE is a verb whereas ADVICE is a noun in my EFL class in high school in Argentina years ago. One would expect more from a native speaker, and one that is trying to clarify a grammar point at that.

    • Zach -  October 11, 2014 - 1:04 pm

      Accepted PARTS not an accepted PART, too, right?

    • Mamasama -  August 29, 2015 - 9:19 pm

      Jo S. be kind. Maybe the proofreader got jabbed in the eye just as he or she came to that word, so by it slipped.

  19. Graham -  September 23, 2014 - 2:12 pm

    This was how I was taught to understand the “me & I” thing, but my real pet peeve currently in vogue is when people, predominantly young, start their sentence along the lines of, e.g. “Me and James went out last night” instead of “James and I went out last night.” Drives me crazy…

    • Eugene -  October 4, 2014 - 9:34 am

      The best test for the “me” vs. “I” issue is to place a verb after the subject/object. Thus “me went out last night” probably means someone left the cage unlocked.

  20. Julia Alaniz -  September 23, 2014 - 12:02 pm

    Between is a preposition; prepositions take objects from the objective case of pronouns. The objective-case pronouns are: me, us, (you), him, her, it, them. If you use prepositions followed by a nominative-case pronoun: I, we, (you), he, she, it, they, you are incorrect.

    • taghrid -  September 25, 2014 - 11:19 pm

      would you plz explain more, thanks

      • Peter -  October 4, 2014 - 5:30 pm

        The following are subject pronouns. These are the subject of the sentence. The “do” the verb. I, you, he, she, it, we and they.

        Example: I bought some ice cream. What is the verb? Bought. Who bought? I. I did the buying. I bought.

        The following are object pronouns. These receive action from the verb. Me, you, him, her, it, us and them.

        Example: James gave a flower to her. What is the verb? Gave. Who gave? James. James is the subject. (You can also replace James with the subject pronoun “he.”) James gave. James did the giving. James gave what? A flower. James gave a flower to whom? To her. The “her’ in this case is a girl who received the action of the verb, gave.

        All prepositions take object pronouns. So, in the phrase, ‘between you and I’ or ‘between you and me,’ the correct choice is ‘between you and me,’ as between is a preposition, and all prepositions take object pronouns.

        In the sentence, ‘Thank you for inviting my husband and I’ versus ‘Thank you for inviting my husband and me,’ the second one is correct. You could say, Thank you for inviting my husband. You could also say, Thank you for inviting me. A third option is to say, Thank you for inviting us. Both ‘us’ and ‘me’ are object pronouns, and that is why you can substitute ‘my husband and me’ for ‘us.’

        ‘Thank you for inviting my husband and I’ is incorrect, as ‘I’ is a subject pronoun and ‘us’ is an object pronoun. Therefore, you cannot combine these two, opposite types into one of the same type of grammar.

        I hope this helps.

        • Mamasama -  August 29, 2015 - 9:28 pm

          THAT was beautiful, Peter.

      • Julia Alaniz -  April 10, 2016 - 6:29 am

        I color-code personal pronouns: nominative-case are in pink with a “Link is Pink” logo. Nominative cases (I, we, you, he, she, it, they) go with linking verbs: “This is she. It was I.” etc. My prepositions are green color-coded with a “Green Go” logo which match my objective-case pronouns that are also green. “Between” is green; use any of the color-matched green-coded personal pronouns (me, us, you, him, her, it). Follow the color trail and you won’t go wrong. Pink with pink, green with green. Make your own color-coded chart of them for visual clarification or look into English in Colors –A Visual Visual Adventure.

    • Mj Galang -  November 27, 2015 - 3:42 pm

      Well, is it correct if Between you and I serve as a subject? It’s you and me because it serves as object right?

  21. football -  August 21, 2014 - 10:08 am

    It will truly allow you to access to the most up to the minute scores of all playing teams.
    With the help of online resources you can easily find several online gaming sites.
    Ole Miss and Mississippi State moving the Egg Bowl away from Jackson, Miss.

  22. Selling -  July 14, 2014 - 9:21 pm

    Thanks for finally talking about >Should you say “between you and I” or “between you and me”?
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  23. AJ -  August 4, 2013 - 10:01 pm

    Please do not use “I’s” when you mean “my”. Someone I know says Not Gene and I’s house when she means Gene and my house. And get this she is a teacher!!!

    • Karen -  September 24, 2014 - 8:28 am

      Should it be “Gene’s and my house?”

      • Paul -  October 4, 2014 - 8:49 am

        My peeve is when people use the expression ‘do you get my drift’ when the word should be gist.

        • Sophia -  October 7, 2014 - 4:42 pm

          Actually, “Do you get my drift?” is correct, as a colloquial expression, and has been for decades.

          I also say, “I get the gist of it.” That is how we say it where I live. I live in Canada. If you live in the UK, for example, all bets are off, because our colloquialisms are vastly different.

        • amanda -  May 6, 2015 - 3:46 am

          phrase: ‘do ya get my drift’
          phrase: ‘i ll give ya the gist of it’ or ‘here s the gist’

      • lita'anne -  October 4, 2014 - 6:24 pm

        yes actually it should be!

  24. erk -  June 8, 2012 - 2:32 pm

    Neither “Thanks for inviting my husband and I to dinner.” nor “Thanks for inviting my husband and me to dinner.” are correct. The correct form is “Thanks for inviting my husband and myself to dinner.”


    • BUD -  April 9, 2014 - 8:50 pm

      When it sounds right use it. Don’t let the british rule our grammar. We embrace diversity they even accept ebonics as a language. Tes look it up.
      If it sounds like crap change it, you and I can get over it.

      • BUD -  April 9, 2014 - 8:53 pm

        Sorry, I was so wound up that I did not proof read my submission. Please feel free to critique it.

        • Sudo Nim -  August 3, 2014 - 8:12 pm

          ‘Myself’ is only used reflexively; the only way ‘…invited my husband and myself’ would be correct is if it were ‘I invited my husband and myself’.

    • Kathy -  August 4, 2014 - 9:38 am

      Not sure if you meant to be facetious, but “inviting my husband and myself to dinner” is improper usage. It should be “husband and me.” My(her/him/your)self is used properly in several types of construction (e.g., I could have kicked myself, I myself don’t care). In a past edition of the American Heritage Dictionary, the usage panel described the use of myself in a context where it is incorrect (my husband and myself) is a “prissy evasion of the word ‘me’” and “the refuge of idiots taught early on that ‘me’ is a dirty word.”

      • James Stephens -  September 23, 2014 - 9:46 am

        Actually, it should be Me and my husband. If you put ME first, then it doesn’t matter who else is invited and it is easy to remember. ME first.

        • bob mont -  October 12, 2015 - 1:08 pm

          shouldn’t be my husband an I

    • James Stephens -  September 23, 2014 - 9:42 am

      No one can invite myself except me.You would never say thanks for inviting myself. Thanks for inviting ME and then whoever else. If you put the ME first, it helps.

      • Paid Attention in Junior High -  October 4, 2014 - 7:17 pm

        My dog and I went for a walk.
        Aaron, Bill, Charlie, and I enjoyed a visit to the soda shop.
        Charlize Theron thanked her family, the Academy, and me when she accepted her award.

        Always give deference to all other parties and list yourself LAST, unless you’re a self-centered jerk.

    • Julia Alaniz -  September 25, 2014 - 7:14 am

      Thanks for inviting my husband and me to dinner is correct. Only I can invite myself; others invite me–not myself.

    • Terry -  October 4, 2014 - 10:24 am

      Nooooo!!!! The word “myself” should normally be used only when the subject of the sentence is “I”. Example:
      “I made myself a sandwich.” OR “I sent a message to myself.”

    • Angelina -  December 16, 2014 - 7:32 am

      Actually, If you separate them (say Gene wasn’t invited to dinner), would you really say “thanks for inviting myself to dinner”? Where are you getting your facts?

      • Angelina -  December 16, 2014 - 7:33 am

        No, seriously, I’m not trying to degrade, I’m actually just wondering who told you that.

  25. thatpersonwhosalive -  May 7, 2012 - 6:20 pm

    “My dog and I went for a walk.”
    “My dog and me went for a walk.”
    “My I went for a walk.”…No
    “My me went for a walk.”…No

    1.Omit the first person (or dog in this case)
    2.Omit the possesive term for that person when appropriate.

    • James Stephens -  September 23, 2014 - 9:49 am

      I took my dog for a walk. I went for a walk with my dog. You have to put yourself first.

  26. STHIBASH -  May 2, 2012 - 2:43 am

    Neither “you and I” nor “you and me”, just say “we”

    • Artc -  September 24, 2014 - 6:28 am

      You can’t always use “we”. In the example, you would not say, “thanks for inviting we to dinner”. If you want to be correct, you have to learn and understand the rule, not make exceptions.

  27. ME -  March 25, 2012 - 8:53 pm


  28. SakuraMikan12 -  March 17, 2012 - 3:05 am

    I agree with this. Well, I am not an expert in English, but I agree that it should be “between you and me” I am a Filipino, so if I translate this phrase it would mean, “sayo at sakin” or “sa ating dalawa” which also means as “between the two of us” but, if I use “between you and I” it would mean, “sayo at ako” which would be totally wrong. It’s only my opinion.

  29. Dian -  March 8, 2012 - 5:32 am

    In this case: “You and I will go to the mall,” it is correct, no?

    • Amelia -  September 23, 2014 - 7:17 am

      Yes. Because if you take out the “you” here, it becomes “I will go to the mall.”

  30. mary torres so swagging -  March 7, 2012 - 4:24 pm

    @zach umm i dont care if you think that my post are annoying im loved your not i got swagg you dont so get real !

    • Karen -  October 27, 2014 - 12:09 am

      Mary Torres so swagging,

      I’m not sure what your post was referring to or even what you’re talking about, but I couldn’t help but be “annoyed” by your above comment. That being the case, I feel compelled to correct or proofread your writing just as I habitually do with everything else I read that contains errors. Also, I should mention the fact that I never completed the ninth grade…
      The following is my corrected version or your writing:
      Umm, I don’t care if you think that my posts are annoying. I’m loved, you’re not. I’ve got swag, you don’t…So get real!

      I’m not trying to be overcritical or anything, because I, just as you, don’t care…However, this being a dictionary blog, I just couldn’t let it go.

      • Jim -  May 4, 2015 - 9:20 pm

        I guess you mean “. . . overly critical . . . ” Sorry. Couldn’t help it.

  31. MissRedhead -  March 7, 2012 - 8:10 am

    i love how that in each of these posts there is alllways at least one person to point out the missspellings in others’ posts! rawr ;)

    • Andrew -  May 30, 2014 - 9:47 pm

      2 years late, but… you misspelled “missspellings.” :P

      • DP -  August 20, 2014 - 3:12 pm


        • atanu raju -  September 23, 2014 - 8:21 am

          No idea why quality is so low among blog writers

      • EddyGamerps -  October 8, 2014 - 6:19 pm


  32. ANONYMOUS -  March 7, 2012 - 8:03 am


    • Amelia -  September 23, 2014 - 7:18 am


  33. lulzsec/antisec -  March 7, 2012 - 8:02 am


  34. GEORGE DUBAYA BOOSH -  March 7, 2012 - 8:01 am

    Nah vote for me amercuh.

  35. thomas jefferson -  March 7, 2012 - 7:38 am


  36. Archon -  March 6, 2012 - 9:19 pm

    @ myself :P

    I did notice 8 capitalization errors, 5 punctuation errors, 3 construction errors, 1 spelling mistake, 1 usage error (us for we), and a gratuitous shot at the English(capitalized) language. After that, I guess I didn’t realise that the “its” weren’t just another mistake. If you think French makes so much sense, explain ten men raising one hat. Les dix hommes levent LE chapeau.

    • atanu raju -  September 23, 2014 - 8:25 am

      No idea why quality is so low among blog writers

  37. Ironic Twist -  March 6, 2012 - 7:50 pm

    Oh, and I don’t say “between you and I” or “between you and me” at all.

  38. Ironic Twist -  March 6, 2012 - 7:49 pm

    I say “I’m fine,” so this doesn’t apply to me.

    I’m fine, thank you for asking. ;)

  39. zach -  March 5, 2012 - 12:52 pm

    @mary torres so loved
    1) why are you posting irrelevant crap?
    2) your posting name is annoying
    3) it’s unfortunate that there is no ‘flag’ option in this forum

  40. mary torres 4 ever -  March 3, 2012 - 4:21 pm

    @evie at my hose every weekend were you live ?

  41. MSH -  March 3, 2012 - 2:52 pm

    Fun page. Pet peeves? “FREE GIFT” ! Can anyone say “redundancy”?

  42. Jam108 -  March 3, 2012 - 6:04 am

    Is it “He is taller than me” or “He is taller than I (am)?”

    • Mike James -  October 6, 2014 - 1:38 am

      The Subject I is used in this case, because of the comparison.
      Or to think of it in math terms. A sentence where x = x, subject = subject, so the pronoun would be a subject form.

      Or – another way to look at it is this
      THAN is a preposition, so the object of the preposition, would be ME, as a prepositional phrase. In that case, He is taller than me would be correct.

      So, go with context. If you are writing about him and his height, merely using yourself as a reference, you are the object, he is the subject. He is taller than me.
      If you are talking about yourself and his height which is equal to your own, keep the subject because you’re still talking about yourself.
      So all context. Good luck and have fun. AS IF

  43. Peter Kershaw -  March 2, 2012 - 9:30 am

    I can’t but comment.
    It is my lifelong observation that those who use incorrect grammar are far too often those who simply don’t know the rules of grammar; it’s that simple. A precious few exceptions to that lack of knowledge prove the implied correlation.
    When asked if they really meant to use this or that solecism, they invariably react defensively in an attempt to dissemble their ignorance–their inexcusable ignorance; after all, it takes only a few minutes to learn the basic, or at least the key, rules. None say, “Oh, thank you!”
    Another popular reaction is to deride [as pedantic] those who do use correct grammar. [I'm familiar with Shakespeare's purposeful and effective use of solecism, yet none of the 'solecists' have thrown that fact at me.]
    Nevertheless, I can understand someone’s making a slip-up in an extemporaneous comment or speech while in the moment.
    We shouldn’t expect perfection; we should, however, expect ‘educated speakers’ to learn how to handle the more common examples of the need for the objective/accusative case, and to tighten it up!
    I usually smile when I hear someone in the press corp, for example, utter in all professional seriousness such familiar manglings as: “The official in question gave her and I a quick summary of….” You’re in the language-using PRESS, for crying out loud. Get with it.

  44. R -  March 2, 2012 - 1:06 am

    It is NOT an accepted idiom. “He gave the book to Mary and me” is correct. “He gave the book to Mary and I” is incorrect. Period. He did not give the book to I, sit next to I, call I on the phone, or send a text to I. The ignorant do not magically become intelligent in the presence of more ignorance.

    • atanu raju -  September 23, 2014 - 8:28 am

      Two years late, yet….i still wish to say,” u hit DA nail”….. No idea why quality is so low among blog writers

  45. susan -  March 1, 2012 - 10:38 pm

    i love going to a middle class restaurant, being greeted by young smiling faces eager to make me feel welcome and comfortable at their establishment. I;m ready to follow the hostess to the table until she says to me
    “Are you ready to be sat yet” I thought that was bad enough until another visit to the same place had a cute young man asked if we were ready to be satted> aren’t kids being taught the most basics of grammer in school?. they won’t get far in the busiess world if this how they speak.

    • Slabboy -  October 4, 2014 - 11:28 am

      Oh my word Susan. You did not proofread your piece.

  46. :) -  March 1, 2012 - 12:59 pm

    “I” is a nominative case pronoun; “me” is an objective case pronoun.

  47. Pentacle -  March 1, 2012 - 9:50 am

    In reply to RL’s comment on 2.27, this liberal cares enough to take a break from dooming the world and point out that you redundantly used the word “also” in your second sentence, the expression “8-year-old” is missing a hyphen, you have a stray comma after “however,” and the subject “both” requires the verb “make,” not “makes.” My language pet peeve is pompous reviews of grammar when the reviewer can’t even get it right themselves. Oh, and I’m not wild about snarky, partisan comments posing as thoughtful, on-topic replies. Your estimate that 90% of people on this page can’t write could be lowered if *you* stopped writing here. Clearly you’re a fan of irony. Now back to dooming the world…

  48. Vicaari -  March 1, 2012 - 9:27 am

    How disturbing can it be?
    Most of all it is by the noted post secondary school in/of Toronto w/ branches in Scarborough. Mississauga & abroad, I thinks.
    Nowadays I enjoy doing the “daily hot word” by Dictionanry.com. Today however, as I turned on my school Durham College, Oshawa’s computer I find “Why do we capitalize I? English is the only language that capitalizes personal pronoun, I, why?
    Learn the accident that made it (This is the bigger version that comes from time to time, while Funny story behind our capital I is the little one of three that is shown underneath the above top)
    Now as I click on to the above the “Should you say between you & I or between you & me of Feb 27, 2012
    It means there’s something going on @ the back besides institutional piracy/hacking & I am not allowed to anything
    This is abuse to someone, me. It’s been going on for a while since 2008. It began Wednesday July 9, 2008.
    I am alone. I have no one to turn to. I have no where to go to. What’s going on by a very noted school as a matter of fact it is #1 here I believe, is very unfortunate.
    I am very sorry to disturb your peace & harmony this way though I don’t think the highy educated and sophistictated institution will never ever allow to publish to you
    Such is the reality of today and especially I find myself in
    Thanks for your attention if it helps….

  49. Me -  March 1, 2012 - 9:24 am

    anybody and anyone
    who and whom
    was and were (e.g. If I was… or If I were…)
    lay and lie
    forgot and forget

  50. My Thought -  March 1, 2012 - 8:15 am

    I am good (bad), I am well (ill)?

  51. Don Hamilton -  March 1, 2012 - 8:11 am

    Therefore, by convention, we may expect to see future grammar books teaching: “Frank borrowed Sue $50 to help her with her rent.” “I had went to get a loaf of bread.” “Mary had tooken her dog to the veterinarian.” “That’s what he do.”

  52. Cornelius Lambshank -  March 1, 2012 - 7:48 am

    Forgive my pedantry, but I take issue with 2 examples used on this board.
    The first is that somebody expressed disgust at a friend incorrectly stating “I couldn’t care less”, this is actually correct, as the speaker is stating that in reference to the current topic it would be impossible for them to care any less than they currently do, which is assumedly not at all.
    Secondly the word “snuck” as used in the exemplary sentence “he snuck up on me” is legitimate, at least here in Blighty.
    Proceed with your bickering, advertising and nonsensical dalliance.

  53. Elise E. -  March 1, 2012 - 7:09 am

    I hate it when people fail to capitalize words that must capitalized.

  54. Elise E. -  March 1, 2012 - 7:08 am

    Oh no!!! I knew it was only a matter of time! The discussion board is full of GRAMMAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  55. Miss me -  March 1, 2012 - 6:29 am

    Between you and me, I’d say either is fine.

  56. Rustgold -  March 1, 2012 - 5:30 am

    It appears that at least some of our commenters know much more about the English language than the blog creators. The ‘I’m well’ issue is a case in point.

    Dictionary.com really needs to scrutinise their blog creators more, for blogs not up to proper standard does have a negative impact on the brand.

  57. Tweety Lin -  March 1, 2012 - 4:27 am

    hard to understand but……………………it is interesting

  58. Nshera -  March 1, 2012 - 4:03 am

    I always use that trick!! :-)

  59. mahdi -  March 1, 2012 - 1:52 am

    good job! :)

  60. Grammar Nazi -  March 1, 2012 - 1:40 am

    One of my pet peeves is your when it should be you’re, there when it should be their and as Alex stated, using adjectives instead of adverbs. “It hurt real bad” sounds like trailer park trash. And people not using punctuation. It makes the sentence difficult to understand. Sometimes something as simple as changing the position of a comma can change the meaning of a phrase.

    • becca -  September 22, 2014 - 1:20 pm

      I have been wondering that

  61. myself :P -  March 1, 2012 - 12:51 am

    english is such an defective language, when you look at other european languages they make more sense, (french for example). The thing that annoys me the most is the fact that english is so hard to learn ad a second (or third) language, (its my mother tongue though). But us english speakers (especially americans) expect everyone else to learn our complicated language with contradicting rules and conventions, look at the shortened version of “mother” in english or australian english its “mum” in american english its “mom” just because of the way its pronounced, then spelt. if we learn it as our mother tongue growing up its fine and easy, but for foreigners its so difficult…

    P.S. anyone notice i left out the apostrophes in all the “it’s” or did you just skip right over it?

    P.P.S its and it’s are my “grammar pet peeves”

    • James B. DiGriz -  March 12, 2015 - 6:31 pm

      English is NOT a hard language to learn. The ONLY difficult part in it are idioms.

      I didn’t notice your missed apostrophes, as your comment started with all kinds of mistakes, so I just skimmed it through, as it’s always painful to read something written in incorrect language.

  62. naloman -  March 1, 2012 - 12:45 am

    in versus into
    on versus onto
    If “I walk in the room”, I am in the room walking.
    If “I walk into the room”, I start outside the room and end inside the room.

    If “I jump on the table”, I am standing on the table and jumping.
    If “I jump onto the table”, I start on the floor and end on top of the table.


  63. Me -  February 29, 2012 - 11:26 pm

    Hm… it seems as if I am having a bit of trouble with my computer…

  64. Me -  February 29, 2012 - 11:24 pm

    oops… I think I might have accidentaly added my first comment twice…

  65. Me -  February 29, 2012 - 11:23 pm

    I think that this was a very interesting subject. I myself try to use the word “well” instead of “good” when someone asks “How are you?” but I am always discouraged to do so by the strange look that I’m given after my answer…

    Oh and by the way, although I enjoy brownies and cupcakes, I think that many of those who commented here have gone a little overboard with the deviation from the original topic…

    Also, to whoever is “mary torres so loved”, none of the comments that you made here had anything to do with the confusion between using “I” and “me” and I think that you should really stick to the topic shown…

    • bob mont -  October 12, 2015 - 1:14 pm

      if you were to ask me that Question i would cantakerous

  66. I -  February 29, 2012 - 11:21 pm

    Hm… interesting topic. Although, really no one has really mentioned doughnuts yet…

  67. Me -  February 29, 2012 - 11:19 pm

    I realize that I must follow hipocriticism and say that, between you and me, I also like brownies and cupcakes. However I must say that I also enjoy tiramisu, as it is indeed a rather delectably delicious food item… :)

  68. Me -  February 29, 2012 - 11:16 pm

    I think that this was a very interesting subject. I myself try to use the word “well” instead of “good” when someone asks “How are you?” but I am always discouraged to do so by the strange look that I’m given after my answer.

    Oh and by the way, although I enjoy brownies and cupcakes, I think that many of those who commented here have gone a little overboard with the deviation from the original topic.

    Also, to whoever is “mary torres so loved”, none of the comments that you made here had anything to do with the confusion between using “I” and “me” and I think that you should really stick to the topic shown.

  69. evie the circle (eric the circle) -  February 29, 2012 - 10:47 pm

    @marry tones so loved you say brownies??! WHERE WHERE WHERE??!!??!!??!!

  70. Luck in W -  February 29, 2012 - 10:43 pm

    Just another quick point:

    I’m amazed by how many people say something like: Me and Billy are going to the park now. Me and my friends loved the concert last night.

    When I went to high school, I can remember our English teacher trying to pound into us: It’s “Billy, Kit and I… My friends and I…” at the beginning of the sentence. You always put yourself last.

    Sometimes I wonder if that’s where the “For you and I… between my friends and I…” really reached its height. Of course, there is also that one very popular song that ends: “For you and I…” from some 80s film of the 80s. That didn’t help the English grammar one bit.

    • HunkyDory -  September 23, 2014 - 6:21 pm

      I guess you didn’t mean the song from “High Society”, because in it “for” is not a preposition but a conjunction meaning “because”.

  71. Luck in W -  February 29, 2012 - 10:31 pm

    @Heart: There are a few cases where it’s impossible to put the preposition anywhere but at the end of the sentence. Therefore, the rule has been rejected by the University of Chicago Manual of Style.(I think that’s what it’s called.) In a really important paper like a thesis, it’s probably still best to avoid the end of the sentence unless there’s no other place to put it.

    I guess I’m a traditionalist; I like my grammar and my vocabulary correct. I suppose it stems from learning English as my second language when I was seven. I had a pretty good grasp of my mother tongue and read a lot so that by the time I was 14 the vocabulary of a second-year college student in English and was still writing my mother tongue, though I sometimes I had to check with my parents on some cases. I had I inherited my mother’s aptitude for languages and my father’s logic gene. I also learned another two languages in school and two more at university. I can’t really say I’m fluent in the latter two, or in Latin. All of them use similar terms of language function like subject, object, verb, preposition, plural, singular. I think my “logical” mind helps me to distinguish between verbs such as to lie (to be prone, e.g., We lie in a bed to sleep.) and to lay ( to put in a prone position, e.g., She is laying the baby in his crib.) Confusing those can end up with a fire laid on a sofa where a woman is resting. That’s another of my bugaboos, as is the constant misuse of who and whom.

    But I guess I have to resolve to not let myself be bothered by such inaccuracies, though I find it very hard. If I’m reading a book or a newspaper or magazine article or hear them on the radio or TV, they tear me out of the context and I start correcting. That’s probably one of the hazards of being a language teacher.

    I agree that the media are responsible for the destruction of grammar. A part of this are the advertisers who try to be cute by naming a child-care place “Wee (We) Care” or similar oddities. I guess on the whole we are no longer writing enough–I don’t consider texting to be writing. For me that’s a whole other language–one I can’t understand.

    • Simone -  September 24, 2014 - 12:27 pm

      I am completely with you regarding correct grammar, Luck in W. When I hear incorrect grammar of which the examples are abundant throughout the day, I undergo an almost physical reaction. That sounds a bit grand, however, even without resorting to hyperbole, it is not dissimilar to the proverbial nails on the chalkboard, something we have all experienced, I am sure.

      English is also my second language but, even as a very young child, and only barely acquainted with any particular language, I could always discern when a grammatical boo-boo was being uttered.

      In English/American speech there is a sad plethora of examples uttered by folks who claim to have had an education. Here is only one of them.
      “I could have went”

      Now. would someone give me their thoughts? In such very common examples, has it been a matter of parents/teachers not bothering to correct this, and/or, have friends and acquaintances not bothered to set them straight?

      I see that I am commenting to something written more than 2 years ago. Will anyone see it and put me out of my misery?!

      If you do, I thank you.

  72. Madeline Spencer -  February 29, 2012 - 5:12 pm

    This doesn’t actually cover the origin of the capitalized “I”…It’s just reviewing what the rules are for grammar.

  73. &~& -  February 29, 2012 - 5:04 pm

    how is this the mistake that caused I to be capitalized?

  74. Marjorie-Jayne :) -  February 29, 2012 - 5:03 pm

    I don’t get it. shakespeare was from england. we are from the USA. im pretty sure that we developed our own language…in my opinion, different from the “wealthy” British accent. :)

    well my 4th grade teacher (yeah that was a long time ago) said the same thing about removing the first person.

    wealthy british mansion owner: would you care to have dinner with my wife and I?
    californian (me!!! :D ) person: That sounds great, thanks!
    hillbilly named Cledeus: i don’t care what no californian says, i got myself dinner!

    would you care to go on my site: http://www.sites.google.com/site/wol4you and see if the songwriters use that kinda grammar (im kinda low on lyrics and the mp3 songs… :) )

    i wonder…how long it will take me to finish my synonym homework…kinda got distracted.

    man, i am absolutely terrible with grammar and stuff. i only get A’s and a pluses on the homework because before I do work I check my notes and yeah.

    Hey, why is there the MacBook Submit Comment thingy?! I have a Windows program!!

    wow i cant believe i already took up this much space. i just love typing, thats all.

    well i think thats all i need to go on synonym.com thanx!!!!!

    ( helpmegurl@gmail.com)

  75. 2nd -  February 29, 2012 - 4:52 pm

    Thank you for correcting me, Heart. I am not the best at grammar.

  76. mary torres so loved -  February 29, 2012 - 4:46 pm

    @sarah im 16 wbu ?

  77. Mel -  February 29, 2012 - 4:20 pm

    I have a grammatical pet peeve. It involves the words “there”, “their”, and “they’re”. It drives me nuts when people use “they’re” instead of “their”, or “their” instead of “there”.

    There, you see why they’re using it for their blog?

    • Karen -  October 27, 2014 - 12:40 am


      Thank you! Finally, somebody brought this particular pet peeve up and put it out there/here…
      And let’s not forget the ‘to, two, too’, or the improper use of ‘then and than’…It, too, drive’s me nuts! I see it all the time and cringe. Also, ‘alot’ instead of ‘a lot’. It’s really not that difficult to understand how to differentiate and use the proper word when you’re …Oh! that’s the other one…’you’re’ ,and ‘your’. I’m sure I can go on and on with this. I was so relieved when I saw your post. I’m surprised it hadn’t been brought up much sooner though. Then again, now that I think about it, as often as I see these frequent, almost constant common mistakes, I’m more surprised that it was actually mentioned at all!

  78. MissRedhead -  February 29, 2012 - 4:20 pm

    please discuss the necessity of THEN and THAN
    i hate trying to differenciate them BOO!

  79. MissRedhead -  February 29, 2012 - 4:18 pm

    my biggest grammer mistake which i have trouble wrapping my head around is then and than…
    please explain to me the necessity of this cuz i hate it!

    • Simone -  September 24, 2014 - 1:03 pm

      Hi, Miss Redhead,

      This is the one and only time I have been on this page and, after already responding to another, I have taken note of the fact that I am a couple of years late and you may have already been set straight regarding the dastardly then/than issue. I know it can be very tricky for some people. May I make the suggestion that you consult the dictionary? I know it would have been easier for someone to quickly write down the difference but, these little words are used in many diverse ways and this would become a book rather than a note!

      “We dined late, then came home for a long bath, always better than a shower, I think.”

      Then: can be an adjective/noun/adverb

      Than: can be a conjunction/preposition
      such as “he climbed a higher mountain than I did”. “Then” wouldn’t even sound correct in that spot, would it?

      Good luck..

  80. MissRedhead -  February 29, 2012 - 4:15 pm

    creative writing plays with words and grammer rules
    i say this is the best method of writing-keeps things interesting..especially poems~

  81. a jar in a box -  February 29, 2012 - 4:12 pm

    Boxes are attacking earth , we are under siege. Boxes have allies called huninigins. Huninigins are fiece.

    By for now Bannanas of the world.

  82. Rina -  February 29, 2012 - 4:04 pm

    Thank you, Dictionary.com, for another article lacking insight that even fails to answer the question that it proposed this time.

  83. WHATTTTT -  February 29, 2012 - 3:48 pm


  84. Christina -  February 29, 2012 - 3:41 pm

    i really hate school, my cousin is in 5th grade, and she keeps asking me stupid questions like,”Does i come before e,” or “Which came first, the chicken or the egg,” Well, actually, that last one, I made up, but, I know she may ask me that question one day, again, maybe today, nor tomorrow, but she shall ask one day!!!

  85. Christina -  February 29, 2012 - 3:38 pm

    Ummm, i’ve no clue whatsoever of this isa prank, or if it’s just trying to boggle my MIND!!!

  86. ikta -  February 29, 2012 - 3:37 pm

    What trips me up is the use of “if” and “whether”.
    For example in the following sentence: If you said, “Thanks for inviting I to dinner,” it sounds wrong.”, if is used correctly.
    In this other sentence
    Without two people, it is easier to use your ear to hear if “I” or “me” is grammatically correct.
    I was taught that “whether” should be used.
    That irks me!

  87. Joe -  February 29, 2012 - 3:19 pm

    Well, it’s definitely “between you and me” – “I” is only nominative, i.e. when I do something, “me” is accusative and dative – it’s one of those – not sure which – in this case.

    Saying “I’m good/well” is nothing to do with using good (an adjective) when you should use well (an adverb). In this case you *should* use an adjective and not an adverb. Whether you say good or well (in this case, also an adjective) is just down to which word is appropriate. Well, as in “not ill”, and good – a little odd, as you should say you’re good *at* something, but I guess it sounds more normal in the US.

    • bob mont -  October 12, 2015 - 1:18 pm

      they way this conversations are going, i’m going to have to say your bullying and if that’s the case, let this person bully
      you in their way and it violence

  88. kuroiakuma -  February 29, 2012 - 2:59 pm

    this is sort of boring i fell asleep reading it

  89. Heart -  February 29, 2012 - 2:31 pm

    This is in response to 2nd: Actually “For whom is the gift for” has redundancy by using “for” twice. It is correct, however, to write/say “For whom is the gift?” Or “To whom are you giving the.gift? Someone else stated that it is accepted as a correct grammar form to use prepositions at the end of a sentences. In all my years with grammatical references, I have found this incorret usage of proper English grammar.

  90. Taryn -  February 29, 2012 - 2:16 pm

    The worst has to be when people try to correct me when I say ‘as well’ instead of ‘too’. I try to tell them that both are accurate, but they don’t believe me.

  91. sarah -  February 29, 2012 - 1:51 pm

    oh my goshh im nomin on some brownies 2!!!!!how old r u?

  92. Victor Edwards -  February 29, 2012 - 1:34 pm

    I would join the fray, but me and mom have to go to Wal-Mart.

  93. This One -  February 29, 2012 - 1:19 pm

    What bugs me is that my friends like to say “Me and (insert name here) are going to the mall.”

    Wouldn’t it be “(Person’s name) and I are going to the mall”?

    In Spanish we say “(Person’s name) y yo” which translates to ‘and I’!

  94. moi -  February 29, 2012 - 12:36 pm

    can you do ‘except’: is it for or from, that one always gets me…. ’cause different FROM same AS and I think it might be except FOR but WHHHHHHHHHHHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY?

  95. Erie -  February 29, 2012 - 12:20 pm

    I got
    I’ve got
    I have
    I know lots of people that just say ” I got something”
    instead of “I’ve got something” or
    “I have something”
    I blame the media for our poor speech patterns.

  96. Vicaari -  February 29, 2012 - 11:35 am

    It’s between you and me b/c it is after preposition (b/n). It’s prepoition!–BETWEEN.

    Now over the time the above expression “It’s b/n you & I” has become idiom! Shakespear, however, being an astute dramatist brought some glamour using a vehicle–a very ignorant or such character’s mouth to break the monotony using the expression “It’s b/n uoy & I”

    I heard ppl often use, “I am gd”. To me it looks more of I am okay in managing or I can do something than perhaps I am well, meaning I am feeling well or such.

    @Alex: Gd is adjective (modifies/describes a noun or noun substitute like pronoun), while WELL is adverb (modifies/describes a verb)
    Your ex: I play the piano gd is incorrect b/c it (gd) modifies or describes the action word PLAY (verb) So as adverb modifies or describes verb, here adverb would be WELL: I play piano well. WELL (adverb)

  97. mary torres so loved -  February 29, 2012 - 10:42 am

    @joe moma its brownies not brwnehs !

  98. mary torres so loved -  February 29, 2012 - 10:40 am

    @joe momo its broowinies not brownehs !

  99. kathy s. -  February 29, 2012 - 10:26 am

    why do people say, “I feel badly about that.” It should be “I feel bad about that.”

  100. JOE MOMA! -  February 29, 2012 - 10:08 am


  101. Ashley -  February 29, 2012 - 9:30 am

    cool i think:( dont know

  102. Tahiya -  February 29, 2012 - 8:55 am

    and why are people randomly talking about brownies????????

  103. Tahiya -  February 29, 2012 - 8:33 am

    hmm…that is pretty interesting.But when i use language like that which i often use,my friends just tend to laugh at me and call me *posh*.So i just stick to talking ‘normally’.

  104. hello -  February 29, 2012 - 8:29 am


  105. Stephenrup -  February 29, 2012 - 8:26 am

    @AV on February 28, 2012 at 8:09 am

    The phrase ‘I’m good’ may have been accepted within American English (apologies – I’m assuming here), however I could not say the same for UK English, yet, and certainly not within the people I converse with from most areas of the country.
    The phrase we might commonly use in response to the question of How are you?, and almost certainly not technically correct would be to use, “I’m OK”, or I’m Alright”, or “I’m fine”, or more colloquialisms amongst friends may even be shorter terser responses of one word answers as in, “fine”, “awful”, “excellent”, “OK”, in an attempt to trigger further conversation, as every Englishman likes a good moan.
    The phrase’ I’m good’ is not one I have heard very often at all, and to me seems just like there is some word missing from the response, (despite us occasionally using one word responses). As in we might be expecting to hear “I’m feeling good” as a response.

    We don’t however use the technically correct ‘I’m well’ that much either if that’s any consolation.
    Anyhow as language evolves much of this is bound to become irrelevant at some point, but it’s good to discuss all the same while some of us still care.

  106. janey -  February 29, 2012 - 5:25 am

    The comment about “I couldn’t care less…..” intrigued me. Surely when you say that, you are saying “I couldn’t care less than I currently do, because I don’t care at all”.

    In the ‘me and I’ debate, whenever I get confused which one to use, I remember that ‘You and I = We’ and ‘You and me = Us’. If you replace them in the sentence you’re mulling over, you can see that for example you’d never say “Thanks for inviting we”, you’d say “Thanks for inviting us”. Therefore, it’s “Thanks for inviting my husband and me”.

  107. John -  February 29, 2012 - 4:08 am

    Good God! I thought this was a service that had some integrity. “Between you and I” is quintessentially ignorant, and pretentious to boot. The person making this egregious error likely has been corrected in the past for saying something like “me and Sally are going to the movies,” and missed the point of the correction entirely. Assuming that “I” is more elegant than “me,” he/she then pretentiously uses the “between you and I” construction routinely without regard to its function in the sentence. A friend of mine calls this the “piss-elegant” error. Aptly named.

  108. ColinB -  February 29, 2012 - 2:46 am

    The difference between saying “I am good” and “I am well” has nothing to do with adjective or adverb or indeed grammar – the words simply have different meanings. “Well” means “in good health” (and in my opinion the correct answer to being asked how I am), whereas “good” means – amongst many other things – “altruistic”, “flawless” or “proficient (at)”.
    On the other hand, to answer “I’m doing good” in reply to “How’re you doing?” is confusing adjective and adverb. “Doing good” means to me “being altruistic” where “good” is a noun.

  109. Alicia -  February 29, 2012 - 2:34 am

    yeah, this works sometimes too – (^^^) and <(")

  110. james -  February 29, 2012 - 1:16 am

    I LOVE brownies

  111. evaaaaaaaaaaaaa -  February 29, 2012 - 1:12 am

    coooooooool ^^;

  112. Mika Chan -  February 28, 2012 - 8:52 pm

    yeah, yeah. bite me

  113. Nomad -  February 28, 2012 - 8:50 pm

    @Theron Abell about “caring less”

    It’s a peeve of mine as well, but you got it exactly backwards. To say “I couldn’t care less” means that I care so little that it’s impossible to care less than I do.

    @Nukes about “which” and “that”

    I love the technique (described in the article) of splitting compound nouns in order to make the objective or subjective case stand out. Here’s a similar one for “which” and “that”: If you can remove the phrase without losing meaning, use “which”.

    “The house on the corner, which Danny built, is lovely.” “The house that Danica built is much bigger.” In the former, the phrase “which Danny built” adds information, but is not essential as the house is identified as being on the corner. In the latter, however, “that Danica built” is used to identify the house.

    Also, notice the commas.

  114. Geoffrey -  February 28, 2012 - 8:20 pm

    One of my pet peeves is people using “I” in a possessive sense, as in: “Her and I’s daughter.” {shudder}

  115. J Alfred Prufrock -  February 28, 2012 - 7:50 pm

    Let us go then, you and I……..what?? you mean it’s you and me??? but me doesn’t rhyme with sky!! Hmmm…let us go then you and me, when the sunlight shines through yonder tree?? But that is not what I meant at all!! Not at all!! Grrrr….

  116. goww -  February 28, 2012 - 7:35 pm

    One has to remember that language, any language, is always changing. This is especially true in a language such as English, that has so many different branches. The printing press made this process a bit slower, but it keeps marching on. Just look at all the variations of the ‘Indo-European’ language family. If our population had all just been sixth grade English teachers, we probably would all speak the same way.

  117. Kitty -  February 28, 2012 - 7:18 pm

    OOH leap year tommorow!!! :3

  118. Kitty -  February 28, 2012 - 7:17 pm

    I really hate it when people get ‘there’ and ‘their’ or ‘were’ and ‘where’ or ‘to and ‘too’ mised up…. o.O

  119. Zombie Spy -  February 28, 2012 - 6:03 pm

    PS I love brownies too.

    • becca -  September 22, 2014 - 1:22 pm


  120. Zombie Spy -  February 28, 2012 - 6:02 pm

    ha, it worked. thanks, franny

  121. Zombie Spy -  February 28, 2012 - 6:01 pm


  122. 2nd -  February 28, 2012 - 5:53 pm

    iluvlife 12- it should be for whom the gift is for.

  123. meng -  February 28, 2012 - 5:02 pm

    regarding davebroph’s question on February 28, 2012 at 1:22 pm

    “Is it incorrect to say ‘I and my friend went to the beach’ rather than ‘My friend and I’ …… ”

    I’d like to share what my English grammar teacher had taught me more than 50 years ago! “Remember always to put the donkey last” was her command.

    Thus, “my friend and I/me”, “my family and I/me”, “my darling and I/me”, “my dog and I/me” ….

  124. Christopher Schwinger -  February 28, 2012 - 4:51 pm

    I don’t like it when they say “He performed real good”–it’s “REALLY WELL”! Latin has really helped me with understanding English syntax and grammar. “Me” is accusative (object), and “I” is nominative (subject). Any time it’s not the subject of a clause, “I” is “me”.

  125. mary torres so loved -  February 28, 2012 - 4:45 pm

    i love brownies too 8-)

  126. WordCrafter Copy Editing -  February 28, 2012 - 4:16 pm


    You are so right. I noticed years ago that we are witnessing the death of the adverb and the death of the gerund. I can’t believe that so many people care so little about the correct use of language.
    My father-in-law said it best when he lamented, “Everything is going to come full circle, and before long, everyone will be grunting instead of speaking.”
    Certainly, there’s a bit of hyperbole in that, but nevertheless, I can already see it heading that way.

  127. spite -  February 28, 2012 - 4:10 pm

    Pet peeves, eh?

    “The reason is because” always gets me. Whenever I hear someone say “The reason is…” I immediately tense up because I know almost for sure the next word is going to be “because.” It’s unneeded because the preceding phrase already implies there will be an explanation.

    Look what you’ve done to me, SAT prep class. :(

  128. WordCrafter Copy Editing -  February 28, 2012 - 4:07 pm


    Excellent posts, AV! You obviously know what you’re talking about, and I appreciate your input very much.

  129. Someone -  February 28, 2012 - 3:53 pm

    Pet peeve: none of them are as opposed to none of them is.

  130. iasonas -  February 28, 2012 - 3:46 pm

    hi i am funny

  131. Jack Nightshade -  February 28, 2012 - 3:40 pm

    Photo labels: “Bob and I”

  132. Franny -  February 28, 2012 - 3:00 pm

    8-) you know that sometimes when you do 8 then – then ) you’ll get a smiley face with sunglasses Also i love brownies 2

  133. T. B. -  February 28, 2012 - 2:53 pm

    i like the word whom even though i don’t use it often. that is what i am wondering. when would i use the word whom? btw, i love brownies! :)

  134. Jordan -  February 28, 2012 - 2:21 pm

    We just covered pronouns in grammar, and the class brought up a great discussion about this topic. I am going to show this article to my class tomorrow!

  135. star -  February 28, 2012 - 1:37 pm

    The correct way to say it is, between you and me.

  136. JaeEllis -  February 28, 2012 - 1:32 pm

    A related case of “hypercorrect incorrectness” is the all-too-common misusage of the word, “myself” as an object within a sentence. No matter how frequently people might use the word in this manner, it is, nonetheless, incorrect to replace the word “me” as an object (as the direct or indirect object of a verb or as the object of a preposition) unless the speaker’s/writer’s intent is to use the first person pronoun, reflexively, and it is always incorrect to use the word “myself” as the subject of a sentence.

  137. Dublo Raynoku -  February 28, 2012 - 1:32 pm

    Learned this trick in College Humor’s Grammar Nazi episode.

  138. davebroph -  February 28, 2012 - 1:27 pm

    I meant latter not former. Sorry.

  139. Mary Lennox of "The Secret Garden", book by Frances Hodgson Burnett -  February 28, 2012 - 1:24 pm

    I thought it was between you and me. But I tend to say between you and I regularly

  140. davebroph -  February 28, 2012 - 1:22 pm

    Is it incorrect to say ‘I and my friend went to the beach’ rather than ‘My friend and I’ or is it just a horrible way of putting it or both?? Is the former just the convention or is it actually the correct way?

  141. Eiyra -  February 28, 2012 - 12:46 pm

    So,with that rule ” What did he say?” would be incorrect, wouldn’t it? So, what’s the proper way to ask that?

  142. mary torres so loved -  February 28, 2012 - 12:43 pm

    its me myself and I

  143. hksche2000 -  February 28, 2012 - 12:34 pm

    Grammar in american English is a non-starter. Anything goes and (educated) Americans (Brits?) typically are kind and polite enough not to correct the bad English of those who aren’t. On any TV program (including BBC News) any day you can hear any (some) or all of the following errors:

    I should have went (gone),
    he snuck (sneaked) up on me,
    I could have saw (seen) it coming,
    the Fed forecasted (forecast) a decline in rates,
    these data is (are) indicative of or suggests (suggest),
    nothing gets between him and I (me),
    who (whom) can you trust except for whom (who) is your friend,
    just to name a few common ones.

    And most people are unconvinced, “texting” will help improve our language.

    • James B. DiGriz -  March 12, 2015 - 6:47 pm

      Good point, though “data” has become uncountable. You can’t use “datum” as singular, as Latin does. The same goes for “agenda” (singular in Latin: agendum).

  144. Me -  February 28, 2012 - 12:21 pm

    I do not like it when people make grammatical mistakes, especially when they are obvious. We all make those mistakes though, whether we know it or whether we do not know it. Languages evolve over time. Thus, what is correct either was once incorrect or will be incorrect or archaic later. If we all want to argue about this, then we would have to speech Indo-European or Proto-Indo-European, or whatever came before that.

  145. Gaz -  February 28, 2012 - 12:18 pm

    “I’m good”, is not the same as, “I’m well”. In response to the first one might ask, “Good at what?”. “I’m good”, does not sound the slightest bit natural, let alone the bizarre claim it is “very natural”! Who makes this sort of claim?

    The trick of removing the other person is known to me, but in some instances it fails to be helpful. Your own example, “Between you and I” being a good one. The sentence makes no sense, so highlights nothing, if one of the people is removed.

  146. TimO -  February 28, 2012 - 11:55 am

    My pet peeve is people who incorrectly use to versus too and their versus their or they’re. Oh and please add to that your versus you’re. SMH

  147. David -  February 28, 2012 - 11:49 am

    In order to…makes me crazyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

  148. Karen Bell -  February 28, 2012 - 11:14 am

    “You” vs “I” is a source of contention for me, as I hear it used incorrectly, often during conversations, in Toastmasters, Int’l contest speeches, in business advertisements, movies and television. It’s like fingernails screeching on a blackboard. I am a retired teacher.

  149. mary torres so loved -  February 28, 2012 - 11:07 am


  150. amir -  February 28, 2012 - 11:05 am

    It’s the same problem of “It’s me’ and “It’s I”

  151. Alissa -  February 28, 2012 - 11:03 am

    I really hate it when people misuse THAN and THEN.. or use a word like THEIRSELVES. Also, when people misuse HE for HIM and vice versa, and SHE for HER, and vice versa. Ex: “This is she/he.”

  152. DeeAnn -  February 28, 2012 - 10:53 am

    Well, this was a fun diversion while looking up the meaning of “donnybrook” for my Sunday NY Times Crossword! (It means huge fight or scuffle. Answer: melee!)

  153. DeeAnn -  February 28, 2012 - 10:51 am

    While I’m at it, I would rather use a dangling preposition at the end of a sentence rather than get a punch in the face or lose all my friends.

    To the person who referred to their “8th grade classmates”, are you from the USA, or this term making a renaissance comeback in American English? I wouldn’t have have used the term in 8th grade, though I do now. Back then it was always “school friends”.

  154. amir -  February 28, 2012 - 10:48 am

    It’s the same problem of “It’s me” and “It’s I”

  155. DeeAnn -  February 28, 2012 - 10:47 am

    I’m good. (adj., describing what kind of person you are, a good person)
    I’m well. (adv., modifying how you feel or do something, I am doing well, or feeling well).

    That said and done, I just can’t say the first (and am tempted to respond to others who do, “Oh, what are you good about?”). On the other hand, I can’t say the second because it sounds rather stuffy and formal. To me it also gives the impression of having been sick, though I will say, “Pretty well.”

    I was taught to say, “Fine”, which I suppose doesn’t solve it any better than using “good”, since that’s an adjective, too…unless it’s one of those rare doubles-as-both-type words. I also say, okay or great or fine and dandy or bright-eyed and bushy tailed depending on my level playfulness with the language at the moment. :) Now, everyone flock onto here in droves since I’ve made that as clear as mud.

  156. sonia -  February 28, 2012 - 10:38 am

    Thanks for your comment.

  157. John -  February 28, 2012 - 10:36 am

    “Who is knocking the door?” She asked.
    “It’s I/me”

  158. David -  February 28, 2012 - 10:22 am

    Pet peeves, eh?

    One of mine is not using the gerund as appropriate. For example, “New Google Analytics Allows to Measure Site Speed” (…should be “allows measuring”) and “Host now requires to use SMTP with PHP” (…should be “requires using”).


  159. YOUANDME | BLOGCHI@mayopia.com -  February 28, 2012 - 10:20 am

    [...] ‘You and me’ and us and them — what is economically correct? — “I Feel Good” but get no respect cause da Dem — Dey gots all Duh money — or is that Duda — Doggerel? — Not understanding what’s funny. — We feel circumspect — Speaking in rhymes — with an unreasonable circular motion. — Really, How Deep is the ocean? — The speculative point, — Speech is free. — Don’t get your nose outa joint. — If you don’t understand us, — Let’s keep that between you and me  — or not, Oui?  –>>L.T.Rhyme [...]

  160. carol -  February 28, 2012 - 10:08 am

    “I’m good” is wrong because “good” is an adjective. An adjective modifies a noun or a pronoun. In that sentence, the word “good” modifies the word “am” which is a be verb. As I mentioned, only noun and pronoun can be modified by an adjective. What modifies a verb (adjective and adverb) is an adverb so “well” is the correct one because it is an adverb. hehehe

  161. mary torres so loved -  February 28, 2012 - 10:07 am

    @maximunk what are you trying to say? that dose not help !

  162. mary torres so loved -  February 28, 2012 - 9:57 am

    @david thank you !

  163. Sue B. -  February 28, 2012 - 9:41 am

    Radio and TV commentators are not experts in using correct grammar. More often than not they say “like” when they really mean, “such as”. For example, “diseases like cancer can . . . “, which means diseases similar to cancer, but not including cancer. It drives me crazy, and it drives my fiancee’ crazy when I yell at the TV. :-)

  164. Giovanna -  February 28, 2012 - 8:59 am

    While I think most of us today struggle with grammar on some level, I also think it’s important to keep learning. It’s vital for each of us to understand the world we live in as comprehensively as we can, not only for our own benefit, but for the people we share the Earth with and for our children. I think learning about space or Newtonian motion or chemistry is just as important as understanding or own particular language systems. Keep reading, people.

  165. Miles Tugo -  February 28, 2012 - 8:49 am

    The confusion between “I and me” and “Who and whom” can be eliminated as long as you know what prepositions, objects and subjects are. I find that no one ever explains this to anyone, even in public schools. Poor grammar is contagious and addictive and I am also guilty of lapsing into the “acceptable” new grammar conventions in casual conversation.
    For example, “which” should never be used as a conjunction as in, “The phone was lost, which I don’t know who took it”. It should be something like “I don’t know who took the phone which was lost” or “The phone was lost, but I don’t know who took it. This is one of my pet peeves, but It is extremely tempting to mirror the person speaking to you even if their grammar is atrocious. Another example(and another pet peeve) is the term, “begging the question” which in debating means to support your argument simply by restating it in another way. Now, on the news and in publications, we see that it was “adopted” to mean “to bring up the question” and this became acceptable and still is to this day. This type of “transformation” happens at an alarming rate, so grammar may just become a moot point in the future. In fact even “moot point” has become “mute point” thanks to the ‘telephone” effect.
    However, I believe that a person who speaks two or more languages and whose English is not so great, is more admirable than a person who can speak only English. Just sayin’…….

  166. anon -  February 28, 2012 - 8:40 am

    Fowlers: “One of the most persistent myths about prepositions in English is that they properly belong before teh word or words that they govern and should not be placed at the end of a clause or sentence.”

  167. GenesisChi -  February 28, 2012 - 8:23 am

    Technically you are not meant to say “What are you talking about?” and other such sentences with a preposition at the end, but how else are you meant to say that sentence?
    This has long confused and intrigued me since it came up on The Big Bang Theory sitcom :D

  168. Nancy -  February 28, 2012 - 8:18 am

    And then there’s “there’s,” as in, “there’s a lot of fish in the sea.” Virtually no one says, “there are” anymore, even TV and radio commentators.

  169. AV -  February 28, 2012 - 8:17 am

    Finally, in response to me (the poster named me, not myself) both of your sentences can be correct, it all hinges on the inclusion or exclusion of the word “do”. If the sentence includes “do”, it should read “He plays the piano better than I do.” If the sentence excludes “do”, it should read “He plays the piano better than me.” Again, this goes back to the cases of “I” and “me”. “Than” is a conjunction which introduces a comparison. It can compare either two statements or two parts of a statement. In the first example, it is comparing two statements; as such the word “I” functions as the subject of that statement. In the second example, it is comparing two parts, namely “He” and “me”. The word compared, even if compared to a subject, as here, is not itself a subject and so should be “me”.

  170. AV -  February 28, 2012 - 8:09 am

    As for “good” and “well”, lester is correct, “I am good” should not be used to indicate a positive response to “How are you?” However, neither should “I am well.” The correct response would be “I am doing well.” To say “I am well” indicates that you are not sick, as in this case “well” is being used as an adjective. Likewise, to say “I am good” indicates that you are good, either in the moral sense or, as in lester’s example, that you are good (i.e. skilled) at something. “I am doing good” is also incorrect because “good” here would be modifying “am doing”, which an adjective cannot do; only an adverb can fill this role. What that sentence actually means is that you are doing good things, as the only way that “good” can work here is as a substantive adjective, functioning as the direct object of the sentence. Finally, we are left with “I am doing well”, in which “well” is modifying the verbal phrase “am doing”, a role only an adverb can fill. That being said, as the article states there are grammar rules and conventions. I have stated the rule, but the convention, for better or worse, is to say “I’m good”, and, although it is technically incorrect, this has become a commonly used and commonly accepted idiom in our language.

  171. AV -  February 28, 2012 - 7:59 am

    It’s actually much simpler than this article or many of the comments make it out to be. For the “I” vs. “me” debate, just remember that these are the same word in different cases. Typically, English doesn’t have cases, so it can be a difficult thing to grasp, but a few cases have remained. “I” should be used when the word is functioning as the subject in the sentence, as in “You and I are going to the movies.” On the other hand, when used as any other part of speech, “me” should be used, as in “My friend will take you and me to the movies” or “I would like to talk about you and me.” In the first example, the “I” is functioning as the subject. In the second, the “me” is functioning as the direct object. In the third, the “me” is functioning as the object of the preposition “about”. “Who” and “whom” work the same way, they are also the same word in different cases. “Who” works like “I”, functioning as the subject, “whom” works like “me”, functioning as any other part of speech.

  172. Eric -  February 28, 2012 - 7:53 am

    If the question is “How are you?”, the answer is “I feel good” or “I feel bad.” If the question is “How is your sense of touch?”, the answer is “I feel well” or “I feel badly.”

    For who or whom, try this: Remember He = Who, Him = Whom. Then just answer the question; if the question is “Who/Whom did you vote for?”, the answer is “I voted for HIM (not I voted for he).” Him = Whom. Therefore, “WHOM did you vote for?” is correct……or, even more formally, “For whom did you vote?”

  173. Todayland -  February 28, 2012 - 7:43 am

    I am “good” – as opposed to “evil”.

  174. junior -  February 28, 2012 - 7:39 am


  175. David -  February 28, 2012 - 7:35 am

    @Mary Torres So Loved

    I believe you have http://www.hotword.com confused with http://www.hotmacroeconomics.com. but here’s a shot…

    Because people spend borrowed money and high interest makes the money more expensive.

    Lowering business taxes makes doing business cheaper, and a growing company can afford to hire more wrokers if they have a market for their increased production.

    I have no idea.

    Just between you and ME…

  176. mary torres so loved -  February 28, 2012 - 7:23 am

    A.which of the following is a market econmy? a. freedom of enterprises .
    B. government control over the economy.
    C. complete lack of industry
    D. economy is guided by cultural traditions.

  177. Tesa -  February 28, 2012 - 7:22 am

    I feel that rules for proper grammar vary based on usage. If I am writing, I always make a point to phrase my sentences as correctly as possible. If, however, I am speaking, I tend to use more colloquial and conventional phrases that may not be following the “rules” of grammar. I would sound a little too erudite or ostentatious for my taste if I were to constantly refrain from using everyday verbiage.

  178. Cliff -  February 28, 2012 - 7:21 am

    The really stupid, childish English: “There’s two of us”. I cannot fathom how half educated people could talk like that! They is wrong.

  179. mary torres so loved -  February 28, 2012 - 6:50 am

    tu y yo
    or yo y tu

  180. CaEOMH -  February 28, 2012 - 6:45 am

    As far as I know, one should use “I” when the verb “do” is around. For instance: He plays the piano better than I (do).

    Regarding interest rates and taxes, both are ways by which FED tries to regulate the amount of money in the economy and, therefore, regulates the price of money (meaning, the interest rates). When interest rates are higher people tend to decrease their borrowing and increase their savings so the economy slows down. This is one way the government may act to prevent inflation.

  181. maximonk -  February 28, 2012 - 6:39 am

    @mary torres not so loved
    If you must swamp the comments every day with multiple posts, how about sticking to the point instead of with non sequiturs?

  182. Amy -  February 28, 2012 - 6:35 am

    Dictionary.com is such a hoax. The author of this article used “overtime” (meaning to work beyond regular working hours), when “over time” was appropriate.

    If the dictionary can’t achieve proper usage, there’s no hope for the rest of you.

    By the way, ratsnrop — it’s GRAMMAR. Not grammer.

  183. dk -  February 28, 2012 - 6:31 am

    Each of the students [have/has] their own books.

    • Leslie -  June 7, 2014 - 4:23 am

      Each student has his own book.

  184. bubba -  February 28, 2012 - 6:10 am

    My daughter would love to parade her knowledge of ghetto-trash and street-speak, ‘more better’ being a favorite. Now I’m thinking that it could be technicaly correct. so?

  185. John -  February 28, 2012 - 5:59 am

    I understand and surrender to the fact that English is a living language and nobody is really “in charge” of appropriate usage, but it still disturbs me to the marrow that new conventions are coming from the lowest intellectual demographics. “Where you at?” The day that’s perfectly correct, I think I’ll just keep my mouth shut the rest of my life.

  186. bubba -  February 28, 2012 - 5:57 am

    I always appreciate any opportunity to learn and to use words more better.

  187. Jamie -  February 28, 2012 - 5:47 am

    Ginny, both are right, depending upon what you mean. “I’m good” as against “I am bad”; and “I’m well” as against “I’m ill”. So, the answer to the question “How are you?” is probably (but not necessarily) “I’m well”. And Me2 is quite right – ending a sentence with a preposition is something we should not have to put up with. (Damn..)

  188. Sathya Prabhu -  February 28, 2012 - 3:50 am

    I have correcting people when they use You and me to use You and I. Now pity on myself about it.
    Thank you contenter for sharing this.But how an examiner accept when use I?

  189. Cornelius Lambshank -  February 28, 2012 - 3:33 am

    In the “I’m good vs. I’m well” debate, both seem to be colloquialisms founded upon omissions. In this phrase we’re losing the word (doing) “I’m (doing) well”. When the adjective is changed to “good” the grammar is unchanged. It’s easy to see why the latter has become more popular as it retains its grammatical correctness in both the abbreviated and full form.

  190. ron -  February 28, 2012 - 3:09 am

    Grammatically speaking, “between you and me” is correct since between is a preposition. A preposition needs an object (or what we call object of the preposition) to make a prepositional phrase. “I” is a subject pronoun while “me” is an object pronoun.

    “You and I” is correct if it/they function as subject/s in a sentence. For example:
    “You and I should finish this project.”

    I hope this helps. ;-)

    • Reetika Goel -  October 4, 2014 - 8:55 am

      This really helps Ron. A concise (and correct) response!

  191. Joseph -  February 28, 2012 - 2:10 am

    Prepositions are used with personal pronouns in the accusative.
    “In me”, and not “in I”
    “Above me” and not “above I”
    “between” is a preposition.
    So, “between you and me” is the correct form.

  192. Joseph -  February 28, 2012 - 2:04 am

    “I am well” – well is an adverb. “How well are you?”
    “I am good” – good is an adjective. “How good are you?”
    “I am a good person. I am doing well.”
    So, I never use “I am good” when I mean “I am well.”
    However, breaking grammar rules may feel cool. But do not make a routine out of it.

  193. james -  February 28, 2012 - 1:41 am

    @ginny shes right.

  194. james -  February 28, 2012 - 1:39 am

    who cares if you use I instead of you!

  195. Ashley -  February 28, 2012 - 1:34 am


    Saying that one should never end a sentence with a preposition actually isn’t a rule of English grammar. It comes from Latin grammar, because some people used to think that English was inferior to Latin and it had to be Latin-ized. English, however, does allow for that kind of construction by its very nature, and sometimes even demands it–it’s not often you hear someone ask, “In what did you step?” over “What did you step in?”

  196. Nukes -  February 28, 2012 - 1:28 am

    I now understand ” me and I”

    What of That and Which. Should I say “the house that Jack built” or “the house which Jack built”.

    How about may and might, is it “I may come to America or I might come to America”

    • James B. DiGriz -  March 12, 2015 - 6:50 pm

      Buy a book on the basic English grammar.

  197. Gul Zeb -  February 28, 2012 - 12:28 am

    “Thanks for inviting my husband and I to dinner.”

    I think the simpler way to avoid confusion would be to position your objects cleverly in the sentence. For example, the better way to avoid this ‘I or me’ confusion in the above sentence would be:

    “Thanks for inviting me and my husband to dinner.”

  198. Angelica -  February 28, 2012 - 12:26 am

    My pet peeve is when people confuse YOUR and YOU’RE, as well as THEIR and THEY’RE and THERE. It doesn’t take that long to use a little common sense while typing.

  199. Joan -  February 28, 2012 - 12:25 am

    Gosh!!! i hear enough mistakes at work.. i think i can write a book on it. :D

  200. Warren -  February 27, 2012 - 11:28 pm

    You should do the difference between overtime and over time, or hire a proofreader.

  201. danny -  February 27, 2012 - 9:45 pm

    “U”should no” I” dont care…lol

  202. Jacob Makori -  February 27, 2012 - 9:10 pm

    This is great if people can read and stick to the rules instead of sticking to convention. Language usage is fun to me as I play with words from the context prior to applying the grammatical rules. Keep it up!

  203. Jacob -  February 27, 2012 - 9:00 pm

    I hate when people user lowercase I’s

  204. Kathleen -  February 27, 2012 - 8:42 pm

    Well “between” is a preposition and usually you would use the object of the preposition so you would typically use “me”, “them”, “him”, “her”, etc., but not “he” or “her” or “they”.

  205. Katie -  February 27, 2012 - 8:34 pm

    Oh yeah! My second grade teacher taught us that trick. It’s funny I still remember it but I guess it’s because I use it all the time.

  206. Theron Abell -  February 27, 2012 - 8:17 pm

    It really bugs me when a peer of mine would say, “Oh, I couldn’t care less.” when he/she meant to say, “Oh, I could care less.”.
    Oxford commas are also my favorite to use (:

  207. Pat -  February 27, 2012 - 7:45 pm

    And your spelling, also.

  208. Charlie -  February 27, 2012 - 6:56 pm

    Ha. I believe, what most people really need to do, is work on their spelling skills. It’s spelled “grammar”. Actually, I would think that the correct term, in this case, would be “grammatical skills”.

  209. RL -  February 27, 2012 - 6:33 pm

    I think it is quite ironic that their article has 3 grammatic errors in it. Also in the headline on the main page, they also put apostrophes in plural nouns. I believe that 90% or more of this country (including those who write here) can’t read, write, or speak the English language beyond an 8 year-old level. Apathy is killing this country faster than liberalism. Both of them together however, makes us doomed.

  210. mary torres so loved -  February 27, 2012 - 5:46 pm

    can someone plese answer my (?) at the top plese?

  211. mary torres so loved -  February 27, 2012 - 5:45 pm

    do and dose

  212. mary torres so loved -  February 27, 2012 - 5:44 pm

    I lol

  213. What About Bob -  February 27, 2012 - 5:24 pm

    Back in my grammer school days, and that was waaay back, I remember being taught if using a person’s name then I should use “I” as in “Dave and I.” But if I was addressing the person directly then I should say “you and me.” It’s all a conundrum and beyond hope. We have to decide in the individual situation if the person we’re addressing is going to understand the grammatically correct version which sounds archaic or the grammatically hypercorrect incorrect version. Alas.

  214. Ratsnrop -  February 27, 2012 - 4:28 pm

    Interesting. I need to work on my grammer.

  215. Me2 -  February 27, 2012 - 4:21 pm

    I personally hate it when people put prepositions at the end of sentences, as in the sentence “Whom am I speaking to?” where the uber-correct form of the sentence is “To whom am I speaking?”

    The really painful part, however, is when I make that mistake myself.

  216. Vanessa -  February 27, 2012 - 4:20 pm

    As lester said, well vs. good is a question of context. In the ‘How are you?’ scenario, it is correct to say ‘I’m well,’ because well (in this context) is an adjective meaning ‘in good health.’

    ‘Good’ has a variety of meanings; the first 5 listed on this particular website are:
    1. morally excellent; virtuous; righteous; pious: a good man.
    2. satisfactory in quality, quantity, or degree: a good teacher; good health.
    3. of high quality; excellent.
    4. right; proper; fit: It is good that you are here. His credentials are good.
    5. well-behaved: a good child.

    If you can replace the word with one of these definitions (or any of the numerous others) and be left with the same meaning, the usage is correct.

    ‘You and I’ vs. ‘You and me’ is also dependent on context. If one was to say, ‘We make a good team, you and I,’ I believe that would be correct, because the phrase ‘you and I’ is explaining the meaning of the word ‘we.’ In the example given by this article, however, it should indeed be ‘you and me.’

  217. Mary -  February 27, 2012 - 3:33 pm

    I always say “You and me”, following my native Spanish form. And listening people say “You and I” I thought I was wrong. Now I’m really surprised to find I was right! So weird..

  218. Robert -  February 27, 2012 - 3:27 pm

    @ Alex~♭

    I don’t know how you put up with it. Keep saying “I’m well”.

  219. lester -  February 27, 2012 - 3:15 pm

    I can say “i’m good” and the context makes it correct or incorrect (for now). Example “How are you doing lester?” “I’m good” (incorrect)

    I just scored a winning field goal, turn to my teamates with the corner of my lip curled and declare “oh, I’m good”. (correct). Context.

  220. iluvlife12 -  February 27, 2012 - 3:10 pm

    You shouldn’t leave a preposition at the end of a sentence should you?

    “For whom is the gift?” sounds weird though (I’m not sure if that should be whom” or “who”)
    But it is grammatically correct to say “Who is the gift for”

  221. ginny -  February 27, 2012 - 3:09 pm

    Good is an adjective. Adjectives can always act like nouns, therefore “I’m good” is right and “I’m well” is wrong, unless the “well” is being used as an adjective. At least, that’s how I understand it. Am I wrong?

  222. nikki -  February 27, 2012 - 3:08 pm

    hey whoever likes cupcakes say i lol

  223. nikki -  February 27, 2012 - 3:07 pm

    not bad i really need help in grammer?! =)

  224. Fat guys -  February 27, 2012 - 3:01 pm

    :-) :-) :-)

  225. Fat guys -  February 27, 2012 - 3:00 pm

    You should do which or witch.(ninja)

  226. Me -  February 27, 2012 - 2:39 pm

    Whom is in the objective case and who is in the subjective case.
    Whom can be the object of a preposition.
    Who is speaking to me?
    Whom am I speaking to?

    What “He plays the piano better than I” versus “He plays the piano better than me?”
    He plays the piano better than I (do).
    He plays the piano better than me (do).
    Which is correct?

    Rules are prescriptive, conventions are descriptive.

  227. paul reas -  February 27, 2012 - 2:28 pm

    ohh…and go gators………there goood..

  228. paul reas -  February 27, 2012 - 2:26 pm

    i like to eat cupcakes………..yum…

  229. Alex -  February 27, 2012 - 1:57 pm

    Who vs. whom :)
    One of my grammar pet peeves is using an adjective where one should use an adverb. Ex. “I play the piano good,” instead of “I play the piano well.”
    I always though “I’m good” was grammatically correct. Perhaps “good” was never supposed to refer to how a person can feel. I am confused because even when saying, “I’m well,” “well” is an adjective.

  230. mary torres so loved -  February 27, 2012 - 1:57 pm

    which of the following is a progressive tax?
    A.excise tax
    B.state income tax
    C.sales tax on an automobile
    D.sin tax on tobacco products

  231. mary torres so loved -  February 27, 2012 - 1:53 pm

    if the u.s govermment wanted to encourage businesses to hire more employees would the govermment raise taxes or lower taxes on businesses?explain this for me

  232. mary torres so loved -  February 27, 2012 - 1:50 pm

    why do people spend less money when the federal reserve raises interrest rates?

  233. sherryyu -  February 27, 2012 - 1:50 pm

    i cant really read this but interesting

  234. mary torres so loved -  February 27, 2012 - 1:48 pm

    lol :D

  235. mary torres so loved -  February 27, 2012 - 1:43 pm

    ether way is fine ! between you and I

  236. Alex~♭ -  February 27, 2012 - 1:42 pm

    I tend to say “I’m good” when talking to my eighth grade classmates, as they feel it’s weird when I say “well” when asked how I am.


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